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my bf told me he sometimes has thoughts of ending his life and is depressed. first time hearing this in 2 years. he says it’s nothing to do with me but with his work and life itself. i told him i will do everything to help but where do i start ?💔
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Anonymous 3w

I would say as someone with MDD, getting him outside is necessary. Go on walks, get in nature, get away from day long stretches inside one room.

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Help him to make sure he is getting food, water, light exercise, and 8 hrs sleep every night, it’s basic but it helps Consider planning something in the short term future (2-4 months) that he can look forward to, like a visit to family or weekend getaway I got a cat when i was at my low point and the responsibility for another life really did give me a reason to get out of bed, so maybe he would like a pet? Therapy and possibly meds are always good, but he has to want those Good luck!

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Anonymous 3w

Could be silly but a call to the suicide hotline could help. I called a few times when my ex was really bad and some of those operators gave me advice that helped me greatly

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Anonymous 3w

please give me advice what I can do. i have never had depression before and i feel like such a bad gf not knowing what to do exactly. he says just being here is enough but i know that’s not true if I’ve been here for 2 years and he still feels like this

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Go outside. I know hunting is probably a bad idea but maybe fishing idk. Whenever im sad i go out and disapear for a weekend into a forest or camp or something like that get away from tech

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

First of all you have to make it clear that your there for him, will always be there for him, and are a safe person to talk to. Second off, make sure to not say or do anything that could even slightly come off as shame… obv you wouldn’t be trying to but make sure he doesn’t feel shameful for having those feelings. Third and probably most important, if he’s not already you should try to gently push towards therapy. With the right therapist it can be life changing

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

that, and also offer to help take care of him when he lacks the motivation to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

this is a tough situation though :( i really hope things get sorted out. i know it can't be easy seeing someone you love so much struggle with something so dark

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