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Why dont yall ask women out anymore
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Anonymous 10w

Because men never recovered from the expose/document era of the world so no one likes to bother with asking women out because it’s become normal to ‘expose’ men. A lot of them would rather die than make a woman feel uncomfortable like a creep so they just resorted to not dating to not give a chance of it happening.

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Anonymous 10w

I also feel like I’ve been told from countless women that there’s never a good place. Gym? Not allowed, grocery store? Not allowed, bars when they are with a group? Not allowed.

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Anonymous 10w

I’ve been treated rather poorly the last couple times I did so I kinda gave up.

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Anonymous 10w

I’m just sort of sensitive to criticism, like, when I think I did something to make someone uncomfortable. Asking someone out involves that. Think it’s related to ADHD sometimes. Tried it a few times, worked some of those, but when it didn’t no amount of yeses will make up for that feeling.

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Anonymous 10w

Because the last several times I’ve asked girls out it has been extremely demoralizing. I was trying to be polite and sincere but the responses I got were always toxic af. It honestly ruined my time out and about, so I just decided I’d rather enjoy my time to do what I want. I’ll face the music about being single later.

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Anonymous 10w

Been told time and time again women don’t wanna be approached

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Anonymous 10w

Why would we?

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Anonymous 10w

i’m doing brunch and the market tomorrow after asking someone out

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Anonymous 10w

I still ask them out. I have a few contexts in which I won't (recent ex of a friend, a place where they're trapped and can't leave (like if it's a cashier or we're at work together), etc.) but other than that, I just ask bc my mom said closed mouths don't get fed. This is why I've consistently dated funny, beautiful, cool women that I'm still friends with. You have to give yourself a chance so she can give you a chance.

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Anonymous 10w

You’re larping

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Anonymous 10w

I don’t wanna be labeled as a “creep” just because of my physical appearance.

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Anonymous 10w

Why would I ever ask a woman out?💀

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Anonymous 10w

We do we just don’t ask you out

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

Tf is larping

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10w

I beg to differ Its always ‘whats ur snap’

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

No woman has ever asked that it’s always an onlyfans bot or man in disguise

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

Why would a man ask that on ask men

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Idk but it happens. All I know is that (most) women get asked out and hit on so often that they want it to stop

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Girl r u talking about on yy??

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

Hit on yes

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

I’m a woman and I’m deadass curious too sooo tf we talking abt that’s a valid ass question 💀

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10w

No babe Who tf asks someone out on yikyak

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

You’re saying in person guys are coming up to talk to you asking for ur snap???

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10w

Yes

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

Getting hit on is not the same as asking women out that’s the damn problem go look up the difference or sum if u need to

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

An actual answer

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Well here might be an answer. Many men are respectful of women and have heard that they want to be left alone, so they leave them alone. The men who are willing to approach women aren’t as respectful of them, therefore they catcall, touch, etc. and since these are the guys women are interacting with the most this is why women think all men are like this. Part of us aren’t willing to go after women at all, part of us are too comfortable going after women, if you will.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Bear in mind you can ask out men too, your success rate will be much higher than any man’s and most of us dream of being asked out

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

No actually there is a way to talk to women respectfully

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

Why wouldnt u

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

And its deadass not hard to be respectful

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

I do And im successful But damn what if i dont wanna be the man for once

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10w

Noice

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Many women have made it clear they don’t want to be interacted with *at all*, and even if they do, you’re still more likely to get harshly rejected than to get a yes. And that’s another thing, it’s so much damn effort. You’ll get rejected dozens of times without a yes, spending lots of time and money you could be putting to more productive things. And one thing for me personally, idk when or where it’s acceptable.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

It’s not about being a “man”, that’s patriarchal gender role bullshit. Remember that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Okay I understand now u must be a teenager

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10w

U def do not understand Ur doing great sweetie

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

I don’t ngl I can’t even fathom a man walking up to a woman both in their early / mid 20s and saying what’s ur snap

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10w

Well they do And that is when a harsh rejection comes out

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

So fair , ppl too grown for that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w
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Anonymous replying to -> #7 10w

Ok Well im impatient so

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

If you’re impatient then you should be asking men out yourself, which seems like you have been, so good on you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 10w

Yeah well obviously nothing worked out so

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Where are you from that an assertive woman gets no results?? That’s crazy to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 10w

From where men are scared of assertive women And are seen as too much

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

Ig thats why dating apps are so big, never understood not approaching someone, thats how u socialize in person

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Good way to catch a case if you approach the wrong person

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

The only way u can catch a case that way is if YOU do sum weird shit

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

That’s just not true, saw a video the other day of a woman not paying attention and backing into a man and then her yelling that he assaulted her, thankfully everyone around saw the bullshit

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

How many people do u personally know who do that on the daily

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

They were in a line for something and she cut. She shoved him back and claimed he had grabbed her. In the video every single person who saw (including women) call her out. That’s not normal behavior for anyone

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 10w

Sexual assault isn’t normal and women still have every reason to be weary of men

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

it’s all about the approach

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

I have no dog in this hunt but for the love of God, it is WARY! It is not weary or leery ffs

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 10w

Not when they tell you to absolutely not do it 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

what women that you didn’t know before the encounter has said this to you ? and i’ve never heard someone say hey don’t you dare approach her .

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 10w

THIS IS THE ONE AND ONLY CORRECT ANSWER

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

That’s very much false. Incredibly attractive women like to humble brag that getting approached is annoying, but all straight women do like to get approached by men that don’t give the creeps

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 10w

In this day and age, open mouths don’t get fed either

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Anonymous 10w

Well they are right But what i meant was i just dont wanna be the first to make the first move for once

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Anonymous 10w

Yeah i understood, idk i dont like the idea of choosing to not put urself out there. i know why, but not going for anything is a 100% gaurentee nothing will happen

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Anonymous 10w

Agreed

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Or you’re just chopped

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Anonymous replying to -> #21 10w

I aint baby

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That response doesn’t help your case lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

If i thought i was chopped that would be worse

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

If you thought you were chopped you wouldn’t be thinking you weren’t?

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Anonymous replying to -> #21 10w

What?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

If you thought you were chopped you wouldn’t be thinking you aren’t chopped it’s contradictory

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Anonymous replying to -> #21 10w

Not necessarily, ppl my entire life have told me that im pretty its like the only thing they tell me i also used to be a model. Beauty is also subjective, people might not agree, but when most people u meet in life tell u ur gorgeous including complete strangers, more often than not u are considered attractive.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

If you’re truly model level attractive you can literally get a boyfriend tomorrow

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Anonymous replying to -> #21 10w

Im aware i can its a matter of them not being my type and unfortunately not knowing how to flirt with the ones that are

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