Anonymous OP 16w

Realistically, *most* women are either in a relationship or single by choice, whereas by contrast, the majority of men are involuntarily single. This is not just a human thing btw, if you look across other species, you’ll see that in many animal species, it’s males competing for females and many males never get to mate at all. If you’re a man and you’re not blessed with certain desirable traits or characteristics, you’re simply cooked.

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Anonymous OP 16w

Again, I’m not trying to blame women for this being the case, I’m just venting my frustrations as an average Joe who’s never had anyone be even slightly interested in me. It’s no one’s fault in particular, just kinda how it is.

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Anonymous OP 16w

Most men do end up in relationships for at least a period of time. You really don’t have to be spectacular to find a gf or have sex. I think you’re kind of assuming humans are naturally polygamous and that a handful of alpha males are gobbling up female attention. Humans prob aren’t strictly monogamous by nature, but our mating strategies are very very different than other animals

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Anonymous oranguru 16w

I’m ngl I do believe that the top 5-10% of men generally get most of the women. I’m not saying there aren’t exceptions but most of the guys I know irl who have gfs are usually very attractive. And women are naturally picky, it’s not a secret that they go for men that are probably out of their league

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Anonymous inphochewated 16w

Most of what you said is a direct result of patriarchal ideals and standards being thrust upon men and women. The ideas of “man must pursue and woo woman” and “if can’t get relationship with woman, then bad” are the reason society puts pressure on men to initiate relationships and for women to attract dudes to want to approach them to initiate. In reality, none of that shit matters and if two people really like each other, both parties will work to make the relationship work regardless of gender

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Anonymous inphochewated 16w

norms. But yeah, most of what you’re saying can be chalked up to “CURSE YOU, PATRIARCHY!!!!” Also #1 is right. Men can be just as needlessly savage as women when it comes to caring about looks and usually are. Like no, most men would NOT date the first woman to approach them 5 out of 10 times. Especially if they don’t know them. And if they would, it’s a coin toss if they’ll stay cuz you still have to take into account THEIR PERSONALITY. But I digress.

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Anonymous inphochewated 16w

The only reason dating is hard is because of emotionally/intellectually stunted adults who don’t know what they want and people who extremely adhere to patriarchal norms.

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