Anonymous #2 9w

thank you for the insight!

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Anonymous #2 9w

I very rarely see men who genuinely like women aside from just thinking some of them are sexy and wanting to bang them

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Anonymous #1 9w

idk i feel like men just live for women yk? they like talking to them, having them around, being with them. i feel like women not so much

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Anonymous OP 9w

Most men live for women because they’re made to believe that their life can only be complete if they’re in a relationship, it doesn’t feel good to only be an enjoyable person if you’re returning romantic interest in someone, men don’t typically entertain the idea of having women as friends like they’re equals to men

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Anonymous OP 9w

It’s interesting… I think there’s a distinction between men seeing women as normal, interesting people to be around (while possibly appreciating their beauty as well) vs. wanting to be around women because that’s the next best thing to having sex or being in a relationship with one. Both of those mindsets are out there.

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Anonymous OP 9w

And while the following may not apply to you at all, some men enjoy spending time with women in a way that feels creepy to women. I’ve experienced it myself - where a man isn’t doing anything inherently wrong, but I can’t shake the sense that he’s expecting me to provide entertainment or validation to him by conversing. This isn’t all the time, but happens enough that women make sure not to look too open to conversation in settings where they don’t want that to happen.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 9w

to be fair, a lot of women present themselves as a prize to be won, so i think thats why men view it that way. men have to earn their way to female attention, dates, sex, etc so men treat it as a competition/game bc women make it that way

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Anonymous OP 9w

While some women are materialistic or make it too much of a game/hassle, I think some of that is a (not super mature) attempt to filter out men who want sex easily, cheaply, and immediately - when the woman herself may want an actual relationship. I don’t wish to play games, but I hope that gives some insight into why some women do.

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Anonymous #2 9w

that makes a lot of sense!

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Anonymous #1 9w

true but then why dont those women just wait to be in a relationship before having sex? why make it a game or a chase? bc then men treat it as a game, they lovebomb, they lie, they sell u a dream just to see if they can “win”

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Anonymous OP 9w

You see it that way because you are influenced by social media. Both men and women have to be good enough to get a date. You seem to also see attention from women as a prize. That’s why we have a problem.

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Anonymous OP 9w

That is the whole point of many of the ways women filter men (whether those ways feel/are genuine or not) - in order to wait to be in a relationship with a man who has more to offer than sex.

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Anonymous OP 9w

You are justifying men’s poor behavior with the idea that women do something to deserve it. You do realize women can be sexual beings but they are still people right? I’ve been lovebombed and I don’t do sex without a relationship and I make it explicitly clear I only want a serious relationship.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 9w

no one said women cant have casual sex… i meant the women who dont, why dont they just not do it until theyre in a relationship. if u want to have casual sex, have casual sex

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Anonymous OP 9w

I don’t think I understand here… women who are open to casual sex typically have it, and women who aren’t open to it typically don’t.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 9w

and not once did i say women do anything to deserve that. i said when women make it a chase, men treat it as a game/challenge. pls dont put words in my mouth. im saying men do these things to manipulate women or to play the game, NOT that women r deserving of it or ask for it

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Anonymous #1 9w

yes ik. so if thats not for u, just wait for commitment to do it. it doesnt have to be a game

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Anonymous #5 9w

i have a gf. im talking about in general

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Anonymous OP 9w

Oftentimes what men think is a game is more of women not wanting to be approached in that way, like the concept of “playing hard to get” comes from men who aren’t secure enough to take no for an answer and justify their more aggressive attempts at getting them with the “game”. The days of grandpa showing up to grandma’s work everyday and them being married for 60 years is over, because now we call that stalking

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Anonymous #6 9w

no i think “playing hard to get” is like chelley from love island w ace

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