Ask Women on Yik Yak | My boyfriend is 25 and he drinks and smokes and plays video games every single day. I’ve been with him for over a year and we’ve had conversations about this many times. He says he will stop eventually but not now. It’s really affecting me. Idk what to do

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Ask Women 4d

My boyfriend is 25 and he drinks and smokes and plays video games every single day. I’ve been with him for over a year and we’ve had conversations about this many times. He says he will stop eventually but not now. It’s really affecting me. Idk what to do

Anonymous 4d

Be with someone for who they are, not who you want them to be. If he isn’t who you want, it’s okay to walk away. People can change, but only if they truly want to.

Anonymous 4d

you don’t have to compromise on your standards. my boyfriend got clean mainly because of me. it was a non-negotiable for someone i was going to be in a relationship, with and he was willing to give it up if it meant he could be with me. that shows true love and respect imo. you can never wait for or count on someone to change, so if it’s really important for you i would do some deep thinking

Anonymous 4d

People who focus too much on the present need a wake up call. This could help him out in the long run. It’s hard to believe in someone who barely believes in a hypothetical future they never think about. Also, If you decide to cheat he might really turn his life around after he hits rock bottom.

Anonymous 4d

Why do you girls keep dating obvious bums holy fucking shit

Anonymous 4d

He’s living it up

Anonymous 2d

Since I plan to have a family, I expect mine to stop all super unhealthy habits as quickly as he can. Habits affect epigenetics, and epigenetics can cause pregnancy complications. I expect him to take care of himself for my safety

Anonymous

#1 4d

Thank you needing this. His promise to stop eventually makes me feel bad to walk away now but I know it’s my fault for staying

Anonymous

OP 4d

Someday he might change, but it’s unfair for you to be unhappy in the mean time. And let’s say it takes years more to change. You’ll have so much unhappiness there’s no guarantee that’ll be enough. Idk. Just seems like a no win scenario

Anonymous

#3 4d

He says with how hard he works he wouldn’t be able to function without smoking weed and drinking. And he does work and provides for us so that’s why it’s hard for me to leave

Anonymous

OP 4d

Does he know it takes months to function regularly after getting sober? Is he letting it control him? He might convince himself that you are being “controlling,” but the brain is very convincing where substances are involved. If you can’t convince him that you want what’s best for him and the substances don’t, it’s up to him to figure out the problem on his own, because you shouldn’t have to lose yourself over his addiction.