Ask Women on Yik Yak | Women, I recommend to my guy friends that they do not try the "friends first" approach for women they are interested in. It can result in exactly this. I recommend that if they want more than friendship, the sooner they explain that, the better. Thoughts?

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Women, I recommend to my guy friends that they do not try the "friends first" approach for women they are interested in. It can result in exactly this. I recommend that if they want more than friendship, the sooner they explain that, the better. Thoughts?

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Anonymous 5w

The reason to not do that isn’t because of what OP said, it’s because being friends with somebody because you have ulterior motives is gross and disrespectful to the other person.

Anonymous 5w

Yeah, I think a guy being friends with women increases the chance of him getting a girlfriend but not of him dating the women he’s friends with It really depends on the people tho

Anonymous 5w

Only do “friends first” if you actually want yo be friends. I find it really annoying when my male friends get upset over me… wanting to be friends. Like dude, that’s what you signed up for.

Anonymous 5w

I don’t like that and will immediately reject you bc I like the friends first

Anonymous 5w

It’s a strange situation for me. I dislike telling them my feelings before getting to know them truly, so I’d rather be friends first. But then telling them and then being friends to “get to know each other” creates a weird dynamic where we both know we like each other, or one of us doesn’t.

Anonymous 5w

I find the friend zone is this space where you’re too close to somebody to date. A good relationship is built on secrets. Surprise dates and that the lacy underwear you ordered. Like being friends is about telling a person those types of secrets and how excited they make you. So to be friends and then loose that friend, is complicated and painful, and that’s why the friendzone exists. So you need to make your move before you get too close and talk too long.

Anonymous

#3 5w

Also a huge waste of time. If you'd be dissatisfied with "just friends" and watching her with some other guy, just be upfront and direct. If she says no, it's a no. Respect that and move on. If you would be genuinely happy being friends, then go ahead and be friends without ulterior motives. Also don't allow yourself to act like her bf if she is not acting like your gf. That's a scam

Anonymous

#6 5w

That’s where we differ because I will only date you if I feel comfortable like we are best friends for life

Anonymous

#2 5w

Yeah same, no mind games for me. Although I will say, relationships that don’t work out are sad because now a friendship option has awkward baggage attached.

Anonymous

#1 4w

I don't think so actually.

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Anonymous

OP 4w

A lot of the best relationships start through friends of friends, the chances of that are higher for a guy if he has good female friends than if not