Anonymous strawberry_hair 13w

“How do I find love?” “Just wait”

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Anonymous OP 13w

I mean isn’t waiting for the right person good advice? And why you do assume the person who says this has never been lonely? Pretty much every single person has been lonely before.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 13w

There is no “right person” there still should be help for being able to find the “right person” You telling someone to simply not worry about literally everyone around them (mind you people who did NOT “just wait” is such a disgusting lie to tell someone suffering from loneliness that’s it’s beyond gross and ignorant to what people are struggling with it’s baffling how you say such a disgusting lie with so much confidence)

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 13w

And also, because they’re never single. I’ve never been told by someone who is alone to “just wait” It’s a delusional lie

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Anonymous OP 13w

I don’t think you are understanding what the advice means. When I get told “don’t worry about people around you” it’s because comparisons to others is a detriment to yourself. It harms you. I don’t see why it’s a “disgusting lie.”

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Anonymous OP 13w

You think that people who are telling you to wait have never been single? You know the vast majority of people have been single right? If I say I want a boyfriend and my mom says “you’ll meet the right guy” that doesn’t mean that I suddenly ignore her words because she’s married to my dad. I know waiting to find someone is hard but it’s much better than forcing it.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 13w

Because it wastes time in life. What is me moving forward saying “man I really got it all wrong, me just not giving a fuck about finding someone was really just internal, why don’t I just move forward with life and never care???” The reason why it’s a disgusting lie is because it’s not an actual piece of advice, it’s from someone who has found love telling you “you’re never going to be loved. Grow up and deal with it.” That’s why they never give you actual advice.

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Anonymous OP 13w

I don’t think it wastes time in life. I could just have a different perspective on this than you do but I’ve been given that advice from both single and not single people before. It’s not saying you aren’t going to be loved. Like at all. I truly don’t even see where you are coming from this. Again it’s probably your perspective versus mine in this case.

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Anonymous #2 13w

Why is it always this disillusioned viewpoint??? Why can’t there ever be a point where people say “hey maybe you can try this to find someone?” Why is it ALWAYS “ykw, people who are getting married all around you and making you watch the world pass you” are somehow in your same position? Because they aren’t. They know that saying is a lie. They say it to tell you to accept you’re never going to be loved. Deal with it.

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Anonymous #3 13w

There’s no benefit to saying “just wait.” It’s a lie, because it’s not what your intention is. You don’t actually care about the person you tell that to, you’re actually telling them that they won’t find anyone, and they should accept that and shut up.

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Anonymous OP 13w

so what exactly do you want to hear? there is really no secret sauce to finding love besides putting yourself out there and, yes, waiting.

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Anonymous #3 13w

Imagine the first statement actually happening. How do you “put yourself out there???” Like do you just show up at places and stand there, hoping that People say “hey what’s up?” That isn’t what actually happens. But even you saying that shit to someone opens a fucking avenue to more shit than the lie of just “meh someone will show up lmfao” Like why does this lie exist???

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Anonymous OP 13w

No one’s saying to just do nothing. It means to not rush into anything head-first. If you’re asking how to find love, it means you’re desperate to do so. ‘Just wait’ is a logical thing to say. What else are you going to do? Force it? Force someone to love you? If you want step by step advice then SAY THAT. To assume that people who say to just wait have ill intentions is insane. You’re twisting the saying into something completely because you’re bitter, which is fine. But you’re being illogical.

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Anonymous OP 13w

putting yourself out there means being social and going to events where you will meet new people around your age. it means talking to the people you meet there and making an effort to connect with them. or getting on dating apps if that’s your vibe. obviously someone will not just poof and appear into your life, you need to create situations where it is possible to meet people and put effort into your relationships.

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Anonymous #2 13w

What the fuck are you talking about. Why do you assume people are so deranged they’re going to RUSH into forcing someone into a relationship. Do you think ANYONE seeking a healthy balance of a loving relationship would do that??? It’s not a logical thing to say, because there’s other ways to say “hey Ykw, we met like this. Maybe you can find someone a similar way because this is how we met” Not some dumbass take like “ahhh just wait someone will show up randomly” Like it’s so fucking dumb

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Anonymous #2 13w

This seems like you’re categorizing people into being infinitely too aggressive head on. Nobody actually seeking intimacy would ever fucking do that. That’s ridiculous

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Anonymous OP 13w

okay so yeah the problem is that you are taking “just wait” way too literally. it doesn’t mean sit at home and stare at the clock and wait and someone will magically show up lmao.

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Anonymous #3 13w

You do realize when people ask for advice, they’re actually asking for advice. They’re not asking for some mythological advanced source of knowledge that you’re supposed to ponder over and figure out on your own because of how intuitive your statement is. They’re being literal. It’s actually asking for advice So when it’s a literal response to what you literally said, why are you acting like that’s not an appropriate response?

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Anonymous OP 13w

So to categorize everyone who’s said “just wait” as advice as someone who’s lying to you is fine? That’s what’s insane. If that advice doesn’t work for you, cool. But it worked for me. My boyfriend literally just showed up. I wasn’t looking, I wasn’t seeking. He came up to me, we exchanged numbers, the rest is history. So how is me telling you to “just wait” lying, if that’s the same exact thing that I did? If you seen that advice doesn’t work for you, THEN GO OUT AND SEARCH FOR A MAN?

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Anonymous OP 13w

Why are you blaming everyone else?

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Anonymous #2 13w

When the actual fuck did I say I was blaming anyone else??? I 1000% why people wouldn’t date me. I wanna know WHY people wouldn’t dat me, and what I could change to be actually date able, and how to change myself to actually find someone This isn’t a “I hate everyone and that’s the reason why I’m alone” is that I genuinely fucking hate being alone and I want actual advice as to why I can’t find someone That’s why I HATE “ahhh just wait” It’s so dumb

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Anonymous OP 13w

because that is the advice you give when someone is already doing everything right and still hasn’t found success. all you can tell them to do is wait because there’s no more advice to give. if you’re being social, meeting new people, on the dating apps, your personality is good, etc. then it is only a matter of TIME. which is why they say wait. because there’s no more advice to give if you’re already doing all the right things to improve your chances

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Anonymous OP 13w

So you want people to give a whole playbook as to why YOU’RE not able to date? How the fuck would anyone be able to tell you that? Only YOU would know. Do some self reflecting. That’s the reason why you should JUST WAIT. You’re expecting other people to give you all the answers when you should seek them yourself. Maybe then you’d be able to find someone.

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Anonymous #3 13w

I guess. It’s just depressing is all. I get where you’re coming from and that makes sense but it still hurts

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Anonymous OP 13w

i understand that but some things are out of your control. so you do the best you can with the variables you can control, and sooner or later something will come of it.

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Anonymous #2 13w

Hold on a second. You do realize that YOU have the ability to just not comment on this post right? This post says “ask women” and I asked women. So you showing up and being mad that I actually asked women about an issue that I have is the ENTIRE theme of the group What the fuck are you bitching about?

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Anonymous #3 13w

Nah you’re right about that and I respect your answer for sure (:

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Anonymous OP 13w

I’m not mad at all, I’m returning the same energy you gave me. Do you need to re-read your comments to see how aggressive you sounded when I was simply giving you answers? You’re the only one bitching here, OP. You’re bitter and angry and taking it out on the wrong people. Seriously, you need to do some HUGE self-reflection.

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Anonymous #2 13w

“Why are you blaming everyone else” yeah I definitely did that. Pick up a fucking dictionary and learn how to read. Next time you spaz the fuck out like this maybe learn to read the room. I asked for actual advice, and you came in here like an actual monkey throwing shit at a wall because I called out how fucking stupid you were being Grow up.

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Anonymous OP 13w

Ah. You want people to tell you why no one wants to date you, right? This is why. You’re a terrible person. Now that explains why you’re lonely. Good luck with your life.

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Anonymous #2 13w

Why the hell would I seek out NEGATIVE behavior??? I want to know what I am doing wrong. I don’t want to put blame on other people. I wanna know what I can do better to find love. That doesn’t mean that I’m going to blame others for that, I’m being honest and asking the group that, because I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing wrong Stop trying to paint me as something else because of your pent up rage from something else

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Anonymous OP 13w

Me having pent up rage? Have you, like, seen yourself? You’re delusional. You cursed me out, disrespected me, all because I said you’re blaming everyone else? You think that’s sane? You think that’s rational? Anyway, you did blame everyone else. To assume that everyone who’s telling you to just wait is them lying and giving shit advice, what else is that if not blame? You think because of that “shit advice”, you’re not able to find the answers that you want.

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Anonymous OP 13w

op you already came here with a negative outlook and i wanna give you one piece of advice. if you’re going around so disillusioned with life and love, thinking everyone was lying to you with their advice and everything is hopeless, you will give off a negative vibe that will deter people. you literally started off here saying that well-meaning ppl telling you to wait were telling disgusting lies. i genuinely recommend an attitude shift if you wanna improve your chances at love.

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Anonymous #3 13w

Do you really think pointing out one lie is me saying everything else is lies? Of course not I’m not a fucking idiot. The “just wait” lie is an actual plague and me actually bringing it up is because I’m frustrated with always hearing it What’s annoying is you somehow thinking I blamed OTHER people for it when THAT lie alone is what makes me angry. It literally isn’t anyone’s fault, not even the people who told me that lie to begin with. I’m just frustrated with it to begin with.

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Anonymous #3 13w

I think you’re just fighting ghosts and you don’t understand what I’m actually frustrated at

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Anonymous OP 13w

OP, you’re a lost cause. That’s all I have to say.

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Anonymous #2 13w

Honestly I don’t know why people like you exist. It’s kinda like a plague that infests every community and watching it happen is always super gross to witness. Someone actually trying to express frustrations and you reply with this? You can tell you’ve never experienced a place of belonging. And you simply want others to deal with the same trauma

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Anonymous OP 13w

you came at #2 really aggressively when she was trying to explain the actual meaning behind the “just wait” advice which i explained earlier. i’m just saying that’s something you should consider improving within yourself because she was literally trying to help you and you’re taking out your frustration about something else on her. it’s unproductive.

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Anonymous OP 13w

So you insult, disrespect, and curse someone out, and expect them to still want to help you? You’re the plague. You’re the sickness. You’re illogical, throw temper tantrums, blame everyone else, and then whine about “well why don’t people like me?🥺”. You’re pathetic.

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Anonymous #3 13w

Oh ok I’ll break this down into your range of IQ. It seems like you have misdirected anger with the way I responded to #2. Maybe it’s a huge journey of how you need to learn about how to deal with it on your end instead of actually addressing what you actually said, because that’s not worth my time whatsoever, I don’t care about your opinion. Throw it out the window

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Anonymous #3 13w

What a dumb fuck thing to say

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Anonymous #2 13w

Hell no I don’t care if they help me. they already have this condescending energy, take a fucking hike. I OBVIOUSLY won’t expect them to give a fuck, so I address it appropriately. Don’t act surprise when fire meets fire

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Anonymous OP 13w

ok lol don’t take my advice then. the way you speak to me versus the way i spoke to you says everything. this is genuinely a reason people will be turned off to you but idc if you don’t want to recognize that.

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Anonymous OP 13w

And that’s why you’re lonely. That’s why you can’t and WON’T find someone. You can’t take accountability, you refuse to take the answers to the questions that YOU asked because you don’t like the answers. You insult and curse out strangers when they haven’t done it to you. You fail to understand your aggressiveness and hostility. And then, in the same breath, you wonder why people won’t date you? The joke writes itself, seriously.

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Anonymous #3 13w

You literally don’t have any advice

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Anonymous #2 13w

“Can’t take accountability” what the fuck are you talking about? Is this hallucination?

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Anonymous #2 13w

The advice the other one gave me is “ahhhh u make me mad ahhhh ahhh ahhh” what the fuck is you and your alt account doing fam

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Anonymous OP 13w

my advice was to fix your attitude because it sucks and to not take out your frustration on people that are trying to help you. you’re not even trying to listen atp so i don’t care lol. you’re just sabotaging your own love life by not self reflecting on your behavior.

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Anonymous #3 13w

Don’t throw stones from a glass castle. My attitude isn’t the problem.

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Anonymous OP 13w

I’m not going to continue speaking to a bitter, lonely, piece of shit. My last advice to you is to enjoy your loneliness. It’s going to continue to be that way for the rest of your life. Take the advice, don’t take it, idc. I’m not the lonely one. To be alone and have a shit personality/attitude? Yikes. Sucks to be you.

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Anonymous OP 13w

mkay. like i said take my advice or leave it. i’ve been very civil with you and you called me a dumb fuck. ponder that, or don’t. idc whether or not you change. i’m done with this lol

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Anonymous #2 13w

Trust! Because I know you’re a shallow human being. You’re a plague that people shouldn’t have to deal with, and it’s pathetic

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Anonymous #3 13w

Notice how you grew off the last statement. Why are you using alt accounts?

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Anonymous #4 13w

Exactly

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Anonymous #5 13w

People like me exist practically everywhere. People like you act like you’re normal despite being hateful and resentful animals that are too dysfunctional to live in the world

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