Ask Women on Yik Yak | Am i wrong for not understanding the discourse on guys weighing girls after them saying height matters? Height/ weight are two different metrics, both matter to both genders. Ive absolutely seen men want specific heights and women want specific builds

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Ask Women 16h

Am i wrong for not understanding the discourse on guys weighing girls after them saying height matters? Height/ weight are two different metrics, both matter to both genders. Ive absolutely seen men want specific heights and women want specific builds

Anonymous 16h

"the discourse" exists just to generate views on social media. if you're wondering why it's a big deal, you're on the right track

Anonymous 16h

because street interview content is degenerate and lowbrow, no matter what ragebait tactics are being used

Anonymous 16h

I think it’s because weight is influenced by many factors and isn’t carried the same amongst everyone, someone who’s a bit chubby could have the same weight as someone who’s muscular at around the same height etc

Anonymous 16h

It’s never done in the context of two people meeting and genuinely trying to connect. Usually it’s just a guy with a microphone trying to make fat women feel bad for having any sort of standard. Women never do this to short men. If you must compare metrics to decide whether or not to date someone, you don’t need to post it online and certainly don’t need to do it to strangers who never wanted to date you anyway.

Anonymous 16h

I think letting weight or height be the sole reason you don’t like a person is weird. Height is not really something you can change and weight fluctuates constantly. You also don’t know why they are that weight or how healthy they are just from that. Preferences are fine but weighing people seems too far

Anonymous 14h

But as standards go most people don’t bring them up, but if a girl is dead set on a a certain height and a guy is dead set on a certain weight those are both standards. But only the man is vilified if he states his standards

Anonymous 16h

So it’s OK for women to dictate a genetic factor that can’t change, but it’s not OK for men to dictate a factor that may or may not be genetic depending on the person that could possibly change and by change I don’t mean way I mean build.

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Anonymous

#1 16h

Plus weight changes throughout adult life much much more than height does

Anonymous

#3 16h

i absolutely agree!!! i just think its weird to weigh people on the street when they say height matters, but generally speaking its obviously not the only factor

Anonymous

#5 16h

I’ll give you that. But in a real life situation if a woman says I need to be still tall I’m gonna find a standard eye care about too. She doesn’t meet it then I’m probably not gonna fuck with her.

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Anonymous

#4 16h

is english your first language?

Anonymous

#4 16h

Are you inventing a standard in response to hers, or simply making your own standards? Because there’s a huge difference. The second option is normal human behavior— you know what you want and don’t entertain ppl you don’t like. Totally normal, fully within your right. You don’t owe anyone a date, ever.

Anonymous

#4 16h

The first option involves you giving up some of your autonomy out of spite. How? If you initially did not care much about weight, you might go for a heavier person that you find attractive. If you hearing that person set a boundary (e.g., no short ppl) makes you want to set your own transactional boundary in response, you’re no longer following your own clear-cut boundaries.

Anonymous

#4 16h

Anyone can have any preferences they want. That does not give you the right to body shame random people on the street for clicks and views. Your preferences are irrelevant to most heavy women because most heavy women have never met you and/or would never date you, so you don’t need to shout them from the rooftops.

Anonymous

#6 16h

If you’re asking if I have standard, yes. How strictly I follow them does depend on what I know about the other person and if they have a strict tight rule, then I guess I get to make one of my standard strict. Especially if it’s something that physically can’t be changed whether I meet the requirement or not.

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Anonymous

#5 16h

No, I’m just using speech to text

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Anonymous

#4 16h

ok so im curious, for you, your immediate thought if they bring up height is their weight? is it because its something thry are insecure about that you can rag on? or would you also think height because thats obviously the equivalent of

Anonymous

#4 16h

thats absolutely not what i said! im asking why we are comparing apples to bananas? if you find a woman unattractive because of her weight thats okay! i just dont understand why often men bring up weight after height is brought up, and a healthy weight is very dependent on height! i’ve seen men call my weight fat but when they look at me think im 15-20 lbs lighter, it feels like an arbitrary number is applied, im just confused as to why weight is equivalent to height

Anonymous

OP 16h

Personally, if it’s a high requirement, I’m gonna look at the bone structure of their face to see if I like it or not.

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Anonymous

#4 16h

but if they bring up something, why compare at all? why not just find someone that likes you and you like them?

Anonymous

OP 16h

“You don’t like me? Fine, I don’t like you either.” I don’t think there’s any equivalence, rhyme, or reason to it. Just misogynistic men acting entitled, and men with fragile egos finding reasons to avoid rejection.

Anonymous

OP 16h

Because they didn’t have to tell me about the requirement. They chose to bring it up, which means they’re already that shallow and I learned in kindergarten treat people the way you wanna be treated.

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Anonymous

#6 15h

He could say women are doing the same thing by only accepting men of a certain height

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Anonymous

#4 14h

No, that’s their personal standard. It’s none of your business. Just as your personal weight standards are none of our business. I have a standard where someone must have intelligence and emotional depth, but that’s none of your business.

Anonymous

#4 14h

If you think that other people’s selective dating standards are a problem that you’re entitled to comment on, you have an entitlement problem.

Anonymous

#6 14h

You are the one who brought it up if you can’t realize the same logic can be applied to both side then you highly misinformed. Girl fear rejection just as much as men.

Anonymous

#4 14h

I don’t fear rejection at all. It’s just data.

Anonymous

#6 14h

Well, that’s good for you

Anonymous

#4 14h

Also I never said that men’s weight standards were bad. I said that men bringing up weight standards in response to talk about height standards was likely a sign of misogyny/fear of rejection. Put on your nuance cap pls.

Anonymous

#6 14h

Probably because they are the two most physics defining features. Sometimes you would be right and the man feels offended so they offend back but I’ve honestly never seen it happen before

Anonymous

#4 14h

well to me its very clear women are vilified for seeing height as a requirement, at least online, again, everyone should be allowed to have their standards! that shouldnt mean they can bring other people down because of it

Anonymous

#4 14h

but then why contribute to the toxicity? obviously treat others the way you want to be treated extends to you correct? why not be the bigger person and move on?

Anonymous

#4 12h

so you can't type?

Anonymous

#3 12h

I mean dude fat chicks are not attractive unless you have a fetish for it

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Anonymous

#7 11h

To you maybe. Doesn’t mean that’s how it is for everyone, or something you need to say