Anonymous #1 16w

I totally get that, I just feel like from experience it’s rare for me to meet women like that. I’ve never dated someone like that and have only met a couple girls in my life who seem to be into that. Do you think it’s more rare among women or do you think my perception is skewed and it really is the same for women as for men?

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Anonymous OP 16w

Kinda skewed maybe you should try seeking those women out specifically

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Anonymous #1 16w

Where do these women reside fr? I been trying to find these types of women but I can’t find any

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Anonymous OP 16w

I’ve met people who like to go out to bars or go shop which is totally fine yk to each their own but I rarely meet people who regularly want to go be active

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Anonymous OP 16w

you can try going to places where they would be doing that hobby. climbing gym, library/book club, open mics. i think it’s more common to have a hobby than not so even on dating apps you should be able to find someone

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Anonymous #2 16w

Yeah I been tryin that lol. Appreciate the advice tho

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Anonymous OP 16w

And I don’t mean women who just have a hobby, I mean someone who’s like really dedicated to a hobby/willing to devote a lot of time to a hobby because it’s important to them. I’m training for an ultramarathon and it takes up a good chunk of my weekend as well as an hour or two a day. If I’m doing something like that but my gf isn’t then I feel like I’d be a bit of an asshole for choosing to spend my time that way yk?

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Anonymous OP 16w

I just can’t tell how selfish/unrealistic it is for me to hope that I can still do stuff like that with my time while also being a good partner.

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Anonymous OP 16w

why does she need to spend that time being ultra dedicated to a hobby like why can’t she just hang out with friends or something while you go do that 💀 i feel like as long as your partner is fine with the amount of time you’re spending together it’s silly to have a strong preference on what they do while you’re apart

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Anonymous #2 16w

Fair fs, I’m not saying someone I date needs to be into the same stuff I am or even the same type of stuff. I just feel like it’s an easier dynamic if we both have things we want to do with our free time regardless of if friends are free or there’s stuff going on.

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Anonymous OP 16w

But yeah as far as it goes I see your point, as long as my partner is happy to do her own thing roughly the same amount of time that I am and we both communicate I’m sure it’ll be fine

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Anonymous OP 16w

i mean idrk why you’re so worried about what your partner is doing in their free time, i have a bunch of different hobbies that i rotate between but i’m not super intense about any of them. everyone has ways to occupy their day. it sounds like what you really want is someone who’s okay with not spending every second together and who is supportive of you spending time on your hobbies. that doesn’t necessarily mean they have to have a hobby they’re extremely passionate about for it to work

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Anonymous OP 15w

dude women are people. there are plenty of women who feel this way. i don’t know why you don’t seem to think they exist just because you haven’t met them. everyone here is telling you that you are not asking for too much assuming you find the right person. this is very reasonable you just need to find someone who likes their space and alone time. it doesn’t have to be a hobby or something crazy dedicated, just someone who needs their own time and space and enjoys being alone. honestly it sounds

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Anonymous #3 15w

liek you’d get on great with a workaholic

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