Ask Women on Yik Yak | Men are weird because they think crying is manipulative but screaming at the screen because they lost a video game isn’t being emotional

Yik Yak

Download

Join communities on Yik Yak Download

Ask Women 2w

Men are weird because they think crying is manipulative but screaming at the screen because they lost a video game isn’t being emotional

160

Anonymous 2w

That’s more because they think the only feeling they’re allowed to show while still being manly is anger

Anonymous 2w

I used to find it weird.. until I was friends with a girl that made me realize why so many men think crying is manipulative 😭 Still though, shouldn’t generalize it.

Anonymous 2w

Crying can be manipulative, but it isn’t inherently.

Anonymous 2w

Men don’t think crying is inherently manipulative, emotionally immature people do.

Anonymous 2w

If you find a good man he won’t be mad at you for crying. But on the same note crying can be manipulative if other things go along with it

Anonymous 2w

crying is very manipulative there the saying crocodile tears for a reason

Anonymous 2w

Being emotional is okay. Being manipulative is not.

Anonymous 2w

How is “being emotional” at all related to “being manipulative”?!?!?!

Anonymous 2w

Hahahahaha I love this

Anonymous 2w

Fr and they’ll cheat and when you find out they’ll cry on the floor for you to forgive them. They think it’s manipulation cuz they cry to manipulate you.

Anonymous 2w

Anyone who screams at a video game is a childish cry baby and shouldn’t be taken seriously

-2

Anonymous

#1 2w

man here, it is not entirely conscious as testosterone naturally dampens all emotions other than anger

Anonymous

#4 2w

And that is a lie but ok

Anonymous

#1 2w

Literally no man I have ever met unironically believes showing emotions is unmanly

Anonymous

#8 2w

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5937254/ no it isn't

Anonymous

#8 2w

My ex did, he refused to ever cry in front of me but claimed he cried like once a week

Anonymous

#3 2w

It can be, it isn’t always

Anonymous

#11 2w

there are very real reasons we do this

Anonymous

#4 2w

Such as?

Anonymous

#11 2w

We refuse to show emotional vulnerability because it can be taken advantage of (even by otherwise good women who in moments of rage/argument will go for the "low blow") and come off as extremely unattractive/weak as being affectected by our situation emotionally instead of enduring shows lack of mental fortitude. In my experience as well as that of my friends, many women get the "ick" subconsciously and involuntarily when such displays of emotional vulnerability are made.

Anonymous

#4 2w

I don't even think necessarily these women are necessarily bad as the "ick" isn't even something they can control, it's just the reality that *many* women in relationships have such an "ick" and we are not willing to test to figure out if you have it. I have even seen women, by their own admission, getting the ick when their boyfriends cry even AFTER they had explicitly asked their boyfriend to be emotionally vulnerable, leading them to express being conflicted and even shameful of their "ick".

Anonymous 2w

These societal standards have been built on the back of biological-emotional realities of partner selection and attraction, things with roots as these are not something to be tampered with and are best left as is. Whether or not it is "fair" or "too hard on men" is entirely irrelevant, it is simply how relationships and socialization function.