Ask Women on Yik Yak | i love my gf but intimacy is a chore. she does not initiate, & often rejects me with diff excuses. and when we do hookup, she just lays there until she’s finished, and then we’re just done. i’m then stuck pleasuring myself when i leave. wtf do i do??

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i love my gf but intimacy is a chore. she does not initiate, & often rejects me with diff excuses. and when we do hookup, she just lays there until she’s finished, and then we’re just done. i’m then stuck pleasuring myself when i leave. wtf do i do??

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Anonymous 3w

You could talk to her about it if you haven’t already and see if she would be open to being sexual more often If not, you two might just be sexually incompatible

Anonymous 3w

You’re probably a jerk. Or ugly. Either way, she doesn’t want to do you.

Anonymous 3w

1) your not entitled to sex (seeing your replies where your trying schedule sex like it’s a Sunday dinner is wild) 2) you guys should be practicing informed consent. Conversations about what you need what you don’t like. I spy she’s not getting everything she wants either cuz laying motionless is obvious discomfort. If she doesn’t want to discuss the issue you stop having sex until she brings it up. I have a feeling the relationship will naturally fizzle after this.

Anonymous 3w

Oof this will not end well. Someone this self absorbed about only getting off for themselves and not considering their partner is selfish. And from the sounds of it you already tried to address it and she whines about being a pillow princess she is never going to try and help. Better off breaking up.

Anonymous

#1 3w

i’m not trying to be a dick i’m asking this, but how do i bring that up without being pushy or rude?

Anonymous

OP 3w

The main thing is that its not just about her, but also about you. Yes you guys are in a relationship but the only way a relationship can work is if you communicate and feel comfortable doing so. Sit her down when the time is right and just tell her how your needs are not being met, and ask for a change. Your feelings matter in the relationship too!

Anonymous

#2 3w

it’s just so hard, i legit just tried to set something up. we hang @ on campus often, but we’re both dorming. spontaneous hookups are hard. i just straight up asked, “when can we set something up?” and she just said “i’m too busy.” i said “all week? what am i supposed to do?” and she said “idk. figure it out. i’m good though.”

Anonymous

OP 3w

i mean she might as well have told me to go fuck someone else right?

Anonymous

#3 3w

no she’s not motionless, she’s well satisfied, however she only is focused on herself, no effort to reciprocate. when i ask to do anything else, i.e. move her, she’s whines about being a pillow princess and not wanting to anything else.