Ask Women on Yik Yak | Hey y'all, is it cool if I ask for some relationship advice? One of my close friends and I have suddenly started to flirt and talk about deep things. I really like her, but we live far, and I know she doesn't like LDRs. (Continued in comments)

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Ask Women 17h

Hey y'all, is it cool if I ask for some relationship advice? One of my close friends and I have suddenly started to flirt and talk about deep things. I really like her, but we live far, and I know she doesn't like LDRs. (Continued in comments)

Anonymous 14h

honestly, if you’re genuine about being friends after, i say go for it. just make sure it’s known that she doesn’t have to say yes and that she won’t lose you as a friend regardless of whatever she says

Anonymous 17h

(Continued) I know a lot of women deal with guy friends falling for them, and I really wanna be respectful to her. I'm worried it'd be wrong for us to keep being friends if I am starting to develop feelings and I'm considering being honest with her and telling her I may need to step away knowing she doesn't like LDRs and she may not feel the same I do for her

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Anonymous 17h

So the problem most women have with male friends confessing their feelings is when they leave the friendship because they “can’t be friends with someone they’ve liked.” It feels like the only use that is seen is for being a potential partner. So please keep being her friend.

Anonymous

OP 17h

Do you all think my line of thinking makes sense or am I overreacting? I of course know every woman is different but wanted to ask since I know this is something many women go through and wanted to be respectful to my friend

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strawberry_hair 17h

I am so so sorry, I should have this made more clear and I didn't because of the character limit: I would absolutely wanna stay friends with her because it's on me to work on my feelings. I was just trying to figure out if I should make my feelings clear because I am worried it's disrespectful of me to hide this from her

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strawberry_hair 17h

Thank you so much for responding by the way! I appreciate your take a lot and that makes so much sense. I've had the opposite happen to me too and know it can be super hurtful and would never wanna do that to one of my friends

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Anonymous

OP 16h

Oh yeah that makes sense! Honestly it’s not disrespectful if you aren’t sure if something will come out of it or if you aren’t sure of your feelings or how you want to word it etc. It’s not wrong to take time to figure it out. You aren’t lying to her.

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strawberry_hair 16h

Thanks, I really appreciate that! I think it's possible I'm just confused because I'm someone who needs to know someone well to develop feelings, and the way we've been acting towards each other has suddenly changed a lot the past few months. I'll definitely take the time to think things through so I can make sure I'm not hurting her and making sure I'm sure Thanks so much again for responding! Really appreciate your advice

Anonymous

#2 13h

Thank you so much for your advice! I am genuine about us being friends, we've been best friends for almost four years now, and she's one of the most important people in my life. The main reason I asked this is just because I don't wanna be disrespectful in how to talk to her about this if I decide that's the right call

Anonymous

#2 13h

Also, I totally agree with your advice and that is exactly what I plan to do if I do!

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OP 13h

well if you ever want my dms are open!! i could totally help you try to ask her out

Anonymous

#2 13h

Thanks so much! I appreciate the offer, that's kind of you. I hope things with you and your life are going well too!

Anonymous

OP 13h

ofccc!! good luck though if you end up not needing my help!

Anonymous

#2 13h

Thanks very much! If anything changes, I'll update y'all on Yik Yak