
A lot of the rules of chilvery and courtship stem back to this one priest in old court days who hated women and basically wrote a satire but people didn’t realize it was satire and a bunch of authors got hired by knights to clean up their bad reps so they took inspiration from that guy. Then all the courts read that stuff and went “oh my god we are uncivilized?” and those stories were the only ones at the time that gave women power so they liked them. Men were huge romance readers too and they
realized all the women were hot for it and so they started doing it. The knights also need motivation because they basically got screwed and usually inherited nothing/got sent to die so they’d just SA and pillage. But the stories convinced some of them that if they behaved well they’d get mad wenches. So the question is will behaving well still get you mad wenches? In certain circumstances yes.