Anonymous #2 1d

this is the worst advice. marrying someone without knowing what they’re like to live with is an awful idea

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Anonymous #5 1d

I feel like a woman should always have a way to leave fully living with a man idk

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Anonymous #2 1d

Wild statement. What about roommates? We can rarely afford houses in this economy

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Anonymous #7 1d

I can work with roommates !

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Anonymous #5 1d

IMO you should already know for certain that you’re gonna marry that person. How can you live with someone before you l know them?

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Anonymous #8 1d

what? you date for a while, move in when serious, then get married. who said anything about living with someone you don’t know??

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Anonymous #5 1d

I’m saying that moving in with someone before marrying them seems like a cop out. Marriage is a commitment and I don’t think you should have to move in with someone just to make sure you can marry them, it should be the other way around. It’s the difference between testing compatibility versus making a commitment first and learning to build a life together after.

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Anonymous #8 1d

Y’all seem like you’re just scaredy-cats of commitment

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Anonymous #8 1d

If both people know they’re fully committed, they may work harder through conflicts instead of treating the relationship as temporary.

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Anonymous #8 23h

why make a commitment before knowing you’re compatible first?? testing compatibility is literally step 1 in the commitment process… why wait til after you get married to potentially realize you’re not a match and have to get a whole divorce rather than simply having to break up with someone? this isn’t about being scared to commit, it’s about knowing when it’s appropriate to commit to someone before you actually do it. you’re literally making 0 sense…

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Anonymous #5 8h

I’m saying you should already know beforehand; without living with each other how the person acts now the person lives.

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Anonymous #8 4h

how would you know beforehand without actually living with them???? living with someone is the only accurate way to gauge what it will be like living with them, duh 😆 please tell me you’re just rage baiting atp

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Anonymous #5 3h

Living with someone is not the only accurate way to gauge what someone is like. You can learn a lot about a person without moving in together. How they handle conflict, money, responsibility, family, work ethic, communication, faith, cleanliness, goals, etc.

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Anonymous #5 3h

My point is that commitment shouldn’t depend on doing a ‘trial run’ first. I think marriage is supposed to be the commitment that two people build their life around, not something you only do after already living like a married couple.

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