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Ask Women 3w
1. I need girl advice 2. We’ve been going on dates and hanging out multiple times a week for three months. 3. She just got out of an abusive relationship. 4. I’ve known her forever 5. We haven’t kissed yet or defined the relationship. I like her,help
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Anonymous 3w

are they established dates? like did you both mutually agree or are you just hanging out

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Anonymous 3w

stop dating her if you feel taken advantage of. I would take her at her word that she’s not ready. Don’t expect a relationship with someone who’s not ready to be in one. If you can’t handle just being a friend then maybe you guys shouldn’t be

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Anonymous 3w

If you feel taken advantage of then move on, she might not be for you & you can’t make someone yours by wishing for it. If she’s not ready to move on from her ex then she’s not ready and you can’t make her be so. She has to choose you as you’ve chosen her. If her not being serious is hurting you, go find someone who’s ready for serious.

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Anonymous 3w

Have you guys discussed dating at all yet?not in relation to her ex but like if she thinks she would be ready etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Hanging out

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Yes, she says she isn’t ready but I feel taken advantage of. Like she’ll get back with the ex and all of my love and affection and gifts and dates will be for nothing. I’m not expecting anything, except for maybe some love and attention

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Okay well then maybe try asking her out? If she doesn't know that you're considering your hang outs dates and you do, you need to be clear abt that.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Yeah so that's expecting something in return... you need to communicate how you feel and that you are seeing the time spent together as more than platonic. You also should maybe stop giving her gifts

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Sorry, I’m not expecting money or sex or physical touch. I was expecting that being a nice person and going on dates would mean eventually dating. I am seeing the time together as dating. She doesn’t want to define the relationship because she claims to be too fresh out of her previous relationship. If I force her to define it, then there’s a chance I just lose her entirely, which I don’t want. If I keep going, then I show my vulnerability and she breadcrumbs me, which will lead to resentment

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

yeah, because you are treating her as if she's your girlfriend and she's making it clear to you that she isn't ready for something like that. you aren't going on dates, you are hanging with her. a date and i can't stress this enough NEEDs to be established between both parties. what you see as dating, she sees as just hanging out. she doesn't owe you a relationship

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