Anonymous #4 5w

I think it’s the little comments he’s made when i do ask that just built up. And he’s a good person, he’s just not very considerate. And I don’t ever really ask for much but maybe that’s why he doesn’t like to do it because i’m normally pretty easygoing and low maintenance when i’m with him.

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Anonymous OP 5w

What kind of comments is he making?

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Anonymous #4 5w

he’ll just like sigh and get visibly annoyed or ask if he has to or just straight up say no. which is okay to say no, but it’s all the time and i hardly ask for anything.

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Anonymous OP 5w

If he’s reacting like that over you asking for minor things that may mean you two need to have a serious conversation because doing little stuff for a person he supposedly cares about shouldn’t be annoying him that much. You’re not asking for too much. He’s just not willing to give it.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Can you give a specific example?

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Anonymous #3 5w

if we’re laying in bed at his house and i ask him to grab me a water he will either tell me to do it (which im not comfortable w his family like that) or he groan about it and i will say it’s fine you don’t have to and he’ll get up and do it but he has to always make things like that a big deal. even if we aren’t together physically and he texts me asking how i feel and i’m sick so i say like oh not the greatest he’s like “oh my gosh”. i just feel like my existence bothers him.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yeah I’d this is all the time, then it’s a problem. Occasionally doing this when he’s tired can be fine, but if he’s doing it this much, especially when he’s texting you like that when you’re sick, I honestly question how much he cares about making you feel good. Maybe there’s some hidden resentments? Either way this is definitely a conversation you need to have with him

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Anonymous #3 5w

If my boyfriend did this, I would immediately take issue

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Anonymous OP 5w

So when I go to visit my boyfriend he either already has a glass of water ready or immediately gets me one without me having to ask. If he sees it’s empty half the time he refills it without me asking, even if it means he has to get out of bed. Needless to say if I were to ask he’d have no issue doing it. If I’m feeling down he wants me to tell him and is hurt when I don’t because he wants to do what he can to cheer me up. Again without me having to ask. Just something to think about.

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Anonymous #4 5w

Yes and my boyfriend does the same thing with the water and even food sometimes. He also is hurt when I tell him I’ve had a bad day and he will ask me why while being very emphatic and heartfelt. The only times he gets irritated (and it’s only slightly irritated) when I ask for favors, is when he’s already tired/irritated or if he’s just messing around/trolling

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Anonymous #3 5w

mine doesn’t seem to like when i’m not 100%😄 i’ve noticed when i bring something up or have a bad day, he doesn’t want to be around me or doesn’t want to talk about it he will leave me on delivered and if he’s not annoyed about it will just say hope it gets better and changes the topic

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Anonymous OP 5w

He shouldn't be doing that 😭. If he only shows up for you when you're 100%, then he's not actually accepting you as a whole person. A relationship is supposed to be about support-making your partner feel better when they're down, not disregarding them or getting annoyed when they're struggling.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Then either responds to his lack of emotional intelligence to know how to support you by abandoning you when you need support or he doesn’t actually care about you and only wants you around when you’re emotionally convenient. Neither scenario is a healthy relationship and you can either respond to that by having a serious conversation with him to see if he’ll change or by ending things for someone who actually gives af about you from the jump.

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