Ask Women on Yik Yak | Im a lesbian, and i do offer to pay on dates most often, but i dont understand the expectation of straight women that men pay for dates. Not saying this as an attack but i cant help but feel like it gives entitled? Am i missing something

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Ask Women 12h

Im a lesbian, and i do offer to pay on dates most often, but i dont understand the expectation of straight women that men pay for dates. Not saying this as an attack but i cant help but feel like it gives entitled? Am i missing something

Anonymous 12h

I always split it but I think the assumption is that if the guy is pursuing you, he's implying it's your time that's valuable, so he pays for the food in exchange for spending the time with you. historically it was obviously just a courtship thing though; men have the money so men spend the money.

Anonymous 12h

To me it’s whoever asks out who should pay, and since that’s usually the men then the men would pay. With a same sex dynamic I would say whoever asked who. I’ve paid for dates plenty of times bc I initiated the planning

Anonymous 11h

for me it’s more abt being a gentleman and wanting to impress me, on first dates or very early dates he should be trying to impress me, showing me he’s a gentleman and can take care of me. obviously i will never ask my man for money and later in the relationship i’ll even pay for dates but at first a man should be trying to impress you

Anonymous

#1 12h

But do men have the money in this economy? Idk it just feels antiquated atp

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#3 11h

but with same sex relationships it’s kinda hard to tell who should pay bc i always wanna pay if im on a date with a girl bc i like to be the provider. but if a man asked me to pay or split the bill early on i would tell him my views on it and likely not see him again. he should impress me by showing he can provide and cares like a gentleman and i impress him by being respectful, dressing nicely, acting like a lady and not like my usual chaotic self. its all abt the impression u want to give imo