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Is it normal for my gf to want to wear a revealing Halloween outfit? Ladies, i probably should stuff my feelings down on this one right
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Anonymous 5d

There’s 2 things here to keep in mind 1) she’s probably doing it for herself, not for anything malicious or 2) maybe she also wants for you to think she looks good in it 🤷‍♀️ I wouldn’t default to it being anything harmful

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Anonymous 3d

You need to communicate your feelings. Especially feelings like this. It’ll keep your relationship healthy!

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Anonymous 2d

Thanks for all the advice

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Anonymous 5d

as a girl and gf, i love feeling hot for myself. it’s not to get attention from other men. it feels good to feel hot. it’s not abnormal to wear something more revealing on halloween. but it would make my boyfriend uncomfortable so i keep it in mind and don’t. but there’s been times where i thought i was wearing something reasonable and he got mad bc he thought it wasn’t. just know that she may just like looking good for herself.

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Anonymous 5d

Yes please sit this one out

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Anonymous 4d

I don’t think it’s wrong for you to feel that way but I think the healthiest thing for you to do for your relationship is to let it go. I agree with the other women on this thread with her intent.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

I get that, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to feel confident or attractive. I just think there’s a fine line between doing it purely for yourself and doing it for how others might respond even subconsciously. Most people, guys included, like external validation to some degree, so I don’t mean that as criticism. It’s just interesting how much of what feels ‘for ourselves’ is still shaped by social feedback

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

i get that. i think it depends on the person. i know gfs who post half naked pics and honestly look and act single and that is not okay at all. but there’s also people who can be loyal and do it for themselves. have u talked to her about it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

Yeah, that’s the tricky part. There’s really no way to bring it up without it coming off as insecure or jealous, even if it’s just about wanting mutual respect. It’s not about controlling someone, it’s about wondering why pushing boundaries that make your partner uncomfortable feels worth it. Hard to communicate that without sounding like the bad guy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

I always think you should be able to voice how you feel about things in your relationship. It’s not right for someone to have to ignore an uncomfortable feeling. My ex wasn’t bothered by how I dressed (I don’t dress to crazy), but if I wanted to feel sexy for Halloween and he was uncomfortable, I’d definitely want him to talk to me about it! His feelings matter to me. I’m sure yours matter to her. If not… you might need to do an assessment 😬. That’s just my opinion!

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3d

I do also agree with what all the other girls said tho. Women are frequently slut-shamed. Halloween is kind of the only day that it’s socially acceptable for her to feel super sexy for herself (and for you too I’m sure!!) in public. A huuuge part of why I’d want to would also be to read my man while I’m out 😉. It’s really just for all the girls to feel cute and hot. We really don’t give a flying fuck about men looking at us 🤣. So I agree with what they’re saying about intent!

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3d

Tease my man**

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

yes i totally agree. it’s never an easy conversation to have tbh. hopefully she does understand, it can cause a lot of arguments if u guys r on different pages. my advice would be to talk to her about it without slut shaming or accusing her of wanting attention from other people. def don’t bottle it in.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

any updates?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2d

Decided to keep my mouth shut

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