Ask Women on Yik Yak | I need help. I’ve been w/ my bf for almost 4 years. I love him and he’s one of the good ones fs. But I don’t want to have sex. We’ve done it in the past plenty and it’s been good but more recently in the last year I just don’t want to. (cont. in comment)

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I need help. I’ve been w/ my bf for almost 4 years. I love him and he’s one of the good ones fs. But I don’t want to have sex. We’ve done it in the past plenty and it’s been good but more recently in the last year I just don’t want to. (cont. in comment)

Anonymous 1w

We’ve tried talking abt it so many times but he seems to just get mad/frustrated when I say I just don’t feel like it. I don’t do anything to myself or fantasize about it or anyone else I just don’t feel like it’s something I need to do. I’m honestly surprised he hasn’t left me because I think we are at 1 year since we’ve done anything now. I feel so bad and I want to want it but it just feels forced. I really love this guy and we’ve envisioned a future together, but this WILL be a deal breaker

Anonymous 1w

Maybe try couple's counseling. Sound like you both are committed but from his perspective it can be isolating and demoralizing. A counselor could suggest ways to "rekindle the spark" so-to-speak. However, if your stance is firm, he'll either have to adjust to this new norm or accept that perhaps this relationship is not salvageable.

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#1 1w

Thank you for your input. I’ve thought about counseling to get “professional” help and he’s even said that. But he said he think I should do it and I don’t think he would. We haven’t really talked about counseling but Its always been about “fixing” me so I’m not sure how he will take that. I definitely will bring it up