Anonymous #2 20w

I don’t want to be serious with the fwb lol, but I would be open to being serious with other ppl

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Anonymous OP 20w

Yea I know. But sleeping with a fwb while simultaneously trying to score a serious relationship kinda sounds complicated. Would you be in the mindset to give up the fwb truly once its gets serious (if your looking for exclusivity)

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Anonymous OP 20w

Honestly if the person I’m dating even casually is sleeping with someone else that would make me lose interest.

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Anonymous #2 20w

Yes I would definitely give up the fwb once it gets serious

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Anonymous #3 20w

That’s fair, would you say I’m in the wrong tho?

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Anonymous #3 20w

This! Sounds kinda sex craved especially since my talking stages are usually 3 weeks and a date usually comes afterwards so knowing in between that your fucking someone is so off putting

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Anonymous #2 20w

So you’re saying next time I just completely pause the fwb when I am talking to someone else?

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Anonymous OP 20w

Would be highly recommended

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Anonymous #2 20w

Would it still deter you that I did something like that in the past? Like that I had a fwb at one point and was seeing others at the same time.

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Anonymous OP 20w

Not sure why you would need to express that to anyone unless they asked. It ultimately depends on the person. I personally don't care, it was before me and although it makes me look at you a certain way, it wasn't toxic or necessarily bad.

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Anonymous #2 20w

What’s the certain way it make you look at me😭

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Anonymous OP 20w

Because of my past relationships I tend to tread lightly when it comes to people who have quite a bit of sex especially while they are in the works of trying to get with someone. Its more of a personal thing than anything.

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Anonymous OP 20w

To me it doesn't convey you want a serious relationship, more like you want someone you can also fuck

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Anonymous #2 20w

Hmmm what if it’s like at least a year in the past, and I would’ve moved on. Even then you would feel that?

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Anonymous OP 20w

Again not sure why anyone would even know that unless you tell them. Also dont know why you would want to tell someone that if its the past

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Anonymous #2 20w

Cuz I kinda agree with you that past does matter lol, and I would ask someone I’m getting serious with about their past. So only fair if I reveal mine too

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Anonymous OP 20w

You’re not in the wrong because you are still single

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Anonymous OP 20w

I never said that part of your past matters to tell

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Anonymous #2 20w

Its like a girl telling you she cheated on her boyfriend a year ago. What would be the point besides inciting possible insecurity in them or making them view you a certain way especially when you aren't currently doing that

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Anonymous #4 20w

Well I don’t think op plans on telling him. And you can’t really expect a girl to be exclusive after one date

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Anonymous #2 20w

Well I don’t think I would date someone who cheated on their ex, so I think that would definitely matter to me

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Anonymous OP 20w

And would want them to tell me that

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Anonymous #5 20w

That isn’t the point. I don’t go around sleeping with fwb if I’m going on dates with other ppl. Bc if I’m going on a date with you that means I’m actively trying to pursue your relationship wise. You don’t have to tell me that’ll still make me lose interest regardless

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Anonymous #4 20w

I’d just put whatever I had on pause bc it’s not like I was going to be serious with that person. But I want to be serious with you and I don’t want to look like I’m not taking it seriously. Especially right before the date

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Anonymous #4 20w

I don’t think going on 2 dates necessarily means you are pursuing them. But to each their own, I think it’s fine personally

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Anonymous #5 20w

If I’m going on dates in general not just 2 dates. It means I’m pursuing a potential relationship. I don’t go on dates for the fun of it I can just stay at home

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Anonymous #4 20w

Ok but who says op was taking this dude serious at this point? Sure she’s looking for something serious but there’s no way to gage if he is it after just once date

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Anonymous OP 20w

Yes but thats my point. There are some things people just wouldn't tell someone they just met nor woke they willingly want to tell someone something they know they will get judged for especially when that was something in the past and trying to start anew

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Anonymous #5 20w

Still not the point. I don’t sleep with ppl right before the date and if I was then I likely wouldn’t take you seriously. There isn’t a gauge I just wouldn’t hold interest in someone that’s still sleeping with other ppl when actively looking to date

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Anonymous #4 20w

I don’t think everyone is the same. Plenty of people go on a date with someone and decide not to pursue that relationship. Dating once or twice doesn’t mean anything

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Anonymous #5 20w

This is how I feel personally? So why is that an issue

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Anonymous #4 20w

You aren’t op tho, maybe she can have casual sex and still take this guy seriously and if she can then who gives a fuck

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Anonymous #5 20w

I said me. What part of that isn’t close

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Anonymous #4 20w

Bc we are talking about op not you gurl what

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Anonymous #4 20w

If a person I’m dating even casually is sleeping around I’d likely lose interest in you over time regardless of how many dates it’s been

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Anonymous #4 20w

If you have nothing productive leave me alive

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Anonymous #2 20w

So if someone asks me I just hide it?😭

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