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Ask Women 1d
Me and my BF have a happy, healthy & loving relationship. We’ve been together for almost 1 year but we haven’t said I love you yet (I refuse to say it first) PLEASE give me advice!!
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Bring it up or ask him about it
Say it first anyways
Just wait
Consider breaking up
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Anonymous 1d

Definitely have a conversation before anything else. I love you can mean a lot to some people and nothing to others. It’s important to figure out where you believe the disconnect is happening

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Anonymous 19h

it’s different for different people but I come from a culture where we say I love you liberally bc you never know when it could be your last. If you want to say it and you mean it, say it. If your partner isn’t ready to say it, it’s not a personal slight or a sign of lesserness. They’re just not there yet.

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Anonymous 1d

I waited a year to tell my girlfriend I loved her because I was terrified she wouldn’t feel the same. There’s nothing stopping you. Let yourself have this certainty and tell him. It can’t change anything

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

How do you suggest I bring it up to him

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I’ve definitely felt loved by him during the relationship but now it’s been so long without saying it that I’m starting to doubt he actually does

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

or he just also has a weird hangup about saying it first and you're both stressing over nothing lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

There is only one way to find out. It would be silly to throw out a relationship because he hasn’t done something that you also can’t bring yourself to do. What if he feels the same as you do now?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Just offhandedly like “Huh I just realized we’ve never said I love you to each other”. Also why do you refuse to say it first? Love is a two person job and he may be scared to say it because you won’t

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