I make comments reacting to or affirming what they seem to be getting at with their story. Like “that sounds tough” or “why would they think that’s ok?” Or “oh no, that would drive me up the wall.”

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Asking follow up questions can fit in, too. Mainly if you’re sort of invested, or if you’re not quite sure of the context. Like “is [coworker] usually like that or is this a new thing?”

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So I understand that there are lots of times when people (in this case my gf) don’t want answers or solution they just want someone to listen. I do get that, but how should I affirm that I am listening? Just simple nods and mmhmm, should I make comments? Or should I just kinda sit there? It’s something I’m trying to get better at but don’t fully understand myself

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Agree, and when you do, repeat the phrase you’re agreeing to

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