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Ask Women 8w
why are men the way they are😭 my bf will talk about ex’s and share about past experiences casually all the time and i don’t care but ill make the smallest comment and somehow it’s “bop lore”. save me.
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Anonymous 8w

nah thats disrespectful asf call him out

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Anonymous 8w

That’s crazy. If I’m gonna talk about past experiences with exes bc it’s what I have to go off of, my partner should have the same exact room to do the same thing. Like we’re all people and we only have so much to go off of.

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Anonymous 8w

that’s so unacceptable, if he doesn’t stop when you call him out he clearly has no respect for you, you deserve to be treated like a whole person with a life outside of him! you deserve better

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Anonymous 8w

as a gen z who hears “bop lore” being thrown around so much on social media nowadays, i feel like it’s a term watered down just to allow men to shame women for having prior experience while avoiding repercussions. it’s inherently rooted in reinforcing purity culture, and i don’t think your bf realizes that he might have some subconscious misogyny to unpack

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Anonymous 8w

Girl he does not respect you. If he’s essentially calling you a ho everytime you abide experiences he’s not for you. Just dump him you deserve way better.

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Anonymous 8w

you need to have a serious conversation with him. he doesn’t respect you. he either needs to get his shit together FAST. (a serious, thought out apology in addition to change in his actions) or you need to break up with him

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8w

exactly! like i had a life before him😭

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 8w

i do..

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 8w

THATS WHAT IM SAYING! i went on a whole fucking tangent about this with my friends the other day! thank you! and you did word this phenomenally

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 8w

I think we are giving op boyfriend way too much credit of innocence. They know what the term means and that’s why they use it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 8w

it’s one thing if he just doesn’t want to hear about it because it makes him insecure (in which case he needs to own up to that and ask you nicely to discuss that without telling stories about exes) but instead of admitting his faults he’s insulting and belittling you for no reason. that’s simply unacceptable.

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