Ask Women on Yik Yak | One time I was kissing a guy. His hands started wandering, and I made one little tiny noise to indicate I didn’t like it. He said “Oh sorry, you’re not comfortable with that?” and immediately stopped. Most attractive thing ever. The bar is in hell.

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One time I was kissing a guy. His hands started wandering, and I made one little tiny noise to indicate I didn’t like it. He said “Oh sorry, you’re not comfortable with that?” and immediately stopped. Most attractive thing ever. The bar is in hell.

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Anonymous 2w

YES if this happened to me I would be shocked and it would make the hookup x1000 times better

Anonymous 2w

Not a question. Also yay we love respecting consent

Anonymous 2w

The guy I’m currently with, when we first started seeing each other, i told him on our like third date I didn’t want to do anything after we had previously done some things. He literally didn’t even try, didn’t question, nothing. Also the most attractive thing ever.

Anonymous 2w

This is great, although I feel like it is also important if someone is uncomfortable with something to voice it, I understand making a noise is kinda just a reaction and it’s great the guy caught on, but not everyone might without being explicitly told something is not ok, ya know? And I feel like that is also a issue in todays world where as important as consent is, it must be communicated, and not just expected that without words it’ll be understood

Anonymous

#7 2w

I see what you’re saying, but I cannot imagine doing anything differently from what this guy did. If I reverse the scenario in my head, I can’t see myself ever continuing on after seeing someone else’s discomfort. I know a select few people struggle with nonverbal communication, but the vast majority are 100% able to understand. If they play dumb about it, it’s because they don’t care.

Anonymous

OP 2w

Not necessarily, simple noises can be taken different ways, and what might be clear to you as a “discomfort noise” is not across the board, especially if it’s a newer person, and yeah some gestures can be a lot more telling that someone is uncomfortable, but my point is that I feel like consent is a expected these days to be understood without even communicating it, like I know people who feel like they were assaulted by their partner because they were uncomfortable and just didn’t speak up

Anonymous

#7 2w

Well in my case, I stopped kissing him, moved a few inches back, and said “Uhhhhh…” so I think it was pretty clear.

Anonymous

#7 2w

I was in the process of trying to verbalize and take a step back when he made the connection and put it into words for me. That is what I expect ppl to do. Or at the very least, pause while I collect my thoughts.