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Is it worth pursuing medical school when the other half of my dream is being able to stay home and raise my kids?
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Anonymous 5w

Honestly no, it’s just additional debt. You could try getting a nursing degree or be an ultrasound technician so you have less schooling but can still be in the medical field though!

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Anonymous 5w

Sadly no… honestly it has to be one or the other. If you stay on the medical path, you’ll only be getting out of school by your late twenties ~27. That doesn’t even take into account your residency. Assuming you go the shortest route as a pcp you’ll be a full practicing doctor at 28. Only then could you really focus on dating and having a kid. That puts your pregnancy at around your early 30s…

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Anonymous 5w

It may seem outdated but I would genuinely feel so fulfilled just being able to be a homemaker but I still love medicine and the only way I could actually be a sahm is if my partner made enough to support us which is so difficult in this economy

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Anonymous 5w

These days the man you happen to fall in love with would have to be makings lottt to support a comfortable life with kids on one income and I don’t think you can necessarily count on that so idk..

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Anonymous 3w

I’m not sure if medical school is compatible with sahm, but you SHOULD 100% HAVE A BACKUP PLAN. When things go wrong— abusive partner, divorce, partner dies young— moms with no career experience sometimes end up homeless and unable to feed their kids. Get yourself some kind of career experience/training, you might need it.

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Anonymous 5w

You’ll need to marry a doctor to afford it - so go to school, either you meet him, and he can give you the choice, or don’t meet the man, and you are a doctor

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Anonymous 5w

Yes. Think about how much more informed you’ll be on childcare and healthcare in general. Plus if you pursue the right path you could be securing enough salary to help their future too. And as weird as things have been in this country multiple countries have stated they’ll make the work visa process easier for medically trained individuals. Don’t hold yourself back you can have kids so much later in life than we could before.

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Anonymous 4w

How much of a stay at home parent do you mean? I’ve known some nurses & doctors who make enough to have taken 6mo-2yrs off to raise their new child. That’s IF you marry someone who makes enough to do that. But I find it hard to imagine doing both. And if it’s possible, it’ll be really draining for you no doubt.

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Anonymous 4w

well doctors do tend to marry each other so if you were confident you’d find a doctor husband who wanted a sahm wife then he can pay off your loans, otherwise probably not the best way to go about that

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 5w

It might not be the exact thing you had in mind but it would have you better prepared if you are wanting to be a stay at home parent to raise your kids!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

You definitely don’t want to still be paying off student loans when you are a stay at home parent, so get a medical degree with minimal schooling that you would still enjoy a short career in

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

1. Biologically, it becomes harder and WAY riskiest to have kid after 30 (medically considered a geriatric pregnancy).

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

2. It makes no reasonable sense to spend north of $100,000 and 4-7 years of your life to become a doctor if you’re not planning on practicing for at least the time it took you to become a physician…

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Im not crushing your dream… but honestly, wanting to be a stay at home mom is VERY conflicting with the sacrifice it takes to be a doctor… and you must definitely shouldn’t even attempt it if you won’t practice long term.

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