Anonymous strawberry_hair 11w

I understand. Thank you Strawberry Hair

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Anonymous OP 11w

There’s nothing wrong with finding women easier to talk to. I find men in general easier to talk to. But that doesn’t mean that going into a safe space is the right way to go about it

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 11w

I want to be honest with you tho--when I said "talk like them so they dont think Im a guy" I mean like getting offended or saying "not all men" in any of their posts. Its not about what the women would say, its about what they would not say. Like only men would say "not all men" and also that one dude who got butthurt that a girl on Girl Talk was offended when she was complaining about being assumed as straight when she was at a pride parade

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 11w

I would not have said something like those things so Im saying like the men there do not have filters but I do Its not about what the women say, its moreso about what the men saying something that a woman would not

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Anonymous OP 11w

is “not all men” something you would ordinarily say though? your post made it sound like you purposefully filter yourself or change the way you speak so they don’t catch you. that feels a little… manipulative? idk a better word, it’s not that serious, but i think i would be kind of upset if i was bonding/relating with someone and then found out it was under false pretenses.

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Anonymous #3 11w

I do purposefully filter myself but "not all men" is not something I would ordinarily say anyway I understand what you mean when you say "manipulative" and it does catch a lot of people off guard I just say that Im a man later and if they immediately block me then thats their choice and I understand it because I did go into it under false pretences

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Anonymous OP 11w

the reason you probably get negative reactions is that a lot of men on there pretend to be girls to start a conversation, and then turn it sexual. i don’t really agree with what you’re doing but ofc there’s nothing anyone can do about it lol.

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Anonymous #3 11w

I dont really turn it sexual tho. Its definitely the "pretend to be girls" part that applies to me. I do understand what you are saying tho like a lot of them would assume I would turn it sexual and want to get out "before I do" so that they dont feel uncomfortable in their safe space (the post came from Girl Talk so its still part of it) Is that what you meant tho or did you mean something different? I want to make sure I understood correctly

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Anonymous OP 11w

yes i mean they probably assume you were trying to do that, or they have had that happen before so they are sick of men pretending to be women (or letting them think they’re a woman) just to talk to them.

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Anonymous OP 11w

Pretending to be someone you are not is still allowing a lie. You are lying about who you are and changing something to avoid being figured out. That in and of itself is a manipulation tactic. Women have had so many experiences with being judged and harassed for who we are. Why would you willingly put yourself in that space where you are not welcomed? They do not want you there.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 11w

that part! if they wanted to talk to men, they wouldn’t have posted on girl talk. i don’t get invading a space in an attempt to connect with people when the desire to connect is one-sided by default.

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Anonymous #3 11w

#3 I totally understand that and will think of that next time I want to go on Girl Talk and remind myself that I should not so that I do not (yes I know I sound like an NPC with this) Strawberry_Hair That makes so much sense and I hadnt thought of it as a manipulation tactic at first but I need to start of it that way. And also I feel like you are also saying what #3 said like them assuming that I was there to harass and judge them. I am sorry about that

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 11w

Also Im not sure if your question was rhetorical or not... Was it?

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Anonymous OP 11w

It was rhetorical. If you have truly been harassed you would know better than to go into a space like that. And you would not want to go into a place where you might have that again. I’m not saying you are there to harass and judge them. But manipulating them is still a form of harm. You are still harming them.

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Anonymous OP 11w

Live your truth OP, I think it’s nice. It’s not that deep. This seems respectful to me and I’m sure many of them would understand.

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