Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

Why so? Don’t you want to be really attracted to the person you wake up to everyday? And vice versa, how would you feel if your partner said they weren’t really with you for your looks but for other things.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Of course I want to be attracted to my partner. Just because looks aren’t important to me doesn’t mean I would be with someone I think is unattractive. But for me being unattractive is part of your personality. If you are unkind person you aren’t going to be hot to me. I think most people have features that make them attractive. My way of viewing it is simply different.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

Do you have crushes and stuff on ppl you never met? If so, what aspect other than looks can you even see?

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Anonymous #5 1w

Cuz you should be with someone you find genuinely attractive and not just cuz you’re with them only cuz that’s all you could get. Would it not be offensive if your partner said they’re with you cuz they couldn’t do better? Like what

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Anonymous #4 1w

I mean shouldn’t the goal be the best person both physically and personality wise? Not one or the other?

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Anonymous OP 1w

I NEVER said i was only with said ppl because that’s all I can get…ppl more attractive than me are less likely to go for me and don’t always have the best personality. Average doesn’t mean ugly. Obviously id still find my partner attractive

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Anonymous OP 1w

No I don’t have crushes on people I’ve never met. I can find them conventionally attractive but I don’t have a crush on them. I can’t just like someone who I don’t know well. I need to know their goals, plans, hopes in life.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Sometimes you can’t really control your physical appearance, so what’s most important to me is that you do the best to better yourself where you can

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Anonymous #5 1w

I guess that’s fine unless if you thirst on other men after getting in a relationship 😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

I’m a guy so not exactly ur target audience but not everybody is gonna date super models so that means you’re accepting that your partner isn’t “the most beautiful person in the world” but you’re not choosing a partner just from looks yk. Life partner is somebody that you love to be around

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Anonymous #6 1w

For me it’s both, someone who I just love to be around and someone who is also really attractive to my eyes. Someone I can really care for and someone I can list over too, not one or the other

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Anonymous OP 1w

And if I don’t think they are really good looking in my eyes, I think it’s definitely gonna affect the relationship longterm, ex lack of sexual interaction

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Anonymous OP 1w

Well yeah you need to be attracted but if you can acknowledge they’re not the prettiest person in earth so you could theoretically “do better” in terms of looks but it’s more like they’re attractive enough looks wise and meet your personality standards

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Anonymous #6 1w

There is no such thing as prettiest person, as ppls beauty is not comparable as such. But what I’m saying is why as an “average” looking person should you only seek out other average ppl? When you should be seeking out the best ppl in every sense looks and personality? Otherwise it’s lowk settling in a way, cuz I really don’t think one would like it if their partner doesn’t find them to be really really attractive and finds them to be only “enough”

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1w

That’s valid

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Anonymous OP 1w

And saying that hot men/women have bad personalities is such an awful stretch lol

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Anonymous OP 1w

I mean in a like physical conventionally attractive sense like they need to be attractive enough for me to be interested and then when I get to know them they can become more attractive based on personality but the way you define attractive is important here and changes the meaning. Idk I have always kind of struggled with the idea that any normal person I date would be “more attractive” than like a super model but that doesn’t mean I want to date the super model. I’ve never been in love tho so

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Anonymous OP 1w

I never said hot people are bad

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Anonymous #6 1w

Not you, #5 did

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Anonymous OP 1w

Ah nvm then my b

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Anonymous #6 1w

I mean why not strive to date the hot model with a great personality is what I’m getting at. Why date average looking ppl with great personality? I think it’s weird that ppl think of their partners as just “enough” and not the greatest person in every sense, looks included

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Anonymous OP 1w

I mean if that’s how I was thinking though then wouldn’t I never be able to date someone who wasn’t a super model? When I say enough I mean like I am attracted to them and think “damn she looks good” it’s just that I also know there are other women that are probably more conventionally attractive.

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Anonymous #6 1w

I mean it’s what you find attractive not objectively attractive. If your type is super models and you find them the most attractive, but you date a not so attractive person, that’s obviously setting 😭. And I think you should rather stay single

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Anonymous OP 1w

If your type is average ppl and you find them the most attractive and you date average ppl, that’s not setting… since you’re dating someone you find the most attractive

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Anonymous OP 1w

Define what you mean by attractive. Like is it just purely physical features? Cuz then like biologically there just simply are traits that were more drawn too but like the existence is somebody prettier doesn’t mean I should just dump somebody I love for someone I don’t know

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