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What boundaries should there be between my girl and her gay best friend?
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Anonymous 5w

So basically you have no trust in your partner and need to confront that first and that’s the real question

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Anonymous 5w

Boundaries aren’t about your gf and her friend, but what you’ll do if they are broken. So the boundary would be if your girlfriend begins hugging and kissing her bestie, then you’ll break up with her. In this case, I think communication about what will make you feel uncomfortable is more appropriate. You can’t do anything about it, but if she cares she’ll appreciate your opinion on the friendship and change her own behavior. If not, then shucks.

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Anonymous 5w

Whatever boundaries they set

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Anonymous 5w

why are you worried about her gay friend ? he’s gay…

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Anonymous 5w

god this is embarrassing

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Anonymous 5w

As a religious person, possession is not at all what God wants for marriage. That is oppressive and controlling. You can argue that a woman must respect her husband but what you would really be suggesting is she must fear you. Fear comes from punishment and respect comes from a pure desire to honor someone. Check your intentions because there’s no fear in love and marriage is not meant to be oppressive.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Why should another guy be setting the boundaries lol… I believe my girl and I should set the boundaries…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Because that’s their friendship….not yours?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Lol this has gotta be ragebait. It’s our relationship that necessitates the boundaries.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

You can set a boundary with your gf but you cannot control their friendship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

If you cannot think of said boundaries by yourself then you shouldn’t be setting boundaries. The dudes gay

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Lol wtf so there should be no boundaries? You’re high lol.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

You clearly don’t trust your gf with a gay friend….kind of sad

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 5w

She’s known him for 6 years and only found out he was gay about a month ago

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

okay and ? does she have feelings for him? what’s the issue

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 5w

I feel like she did at one point. But besides that, my girl is spending time with another man…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

holy insecure 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

it is insanely possessive to have a problem with your gf spending time with other men, especially ones who are gay

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 5w

Hell yea I’m gonna be possessive if she’s gonna me my wife lol…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

shes your partner. not your possession. you need to respect her and her autonomy. you don’t get to control someone under the excuse that she’s going to be your wife one day.

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 5w

I’d argue that in marriage two people become one… it’s even more intimate than possession

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

creepy asf. you are your own person and she’s her own person.

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 5w

Well obviously you have no religious basis for what marriage is…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

No one cares what religion you sre

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

oh jeez. next you’re gonna be saying she should be submitting to you

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Something like “I feel uncomfortable when you’re alone at your besties house after 10 pm.” Could result in either her not doing that, or shifting behavior to soothe your worries such as texting you updates or hanging out with other people there too. Either way that’s her decision, the only thing you can control is how you convey your emotions and how you react to her behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5w

Tried to reply to a comment but it wouldn’t let me.. but it applies to this situation even if you’re just dating rn

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