Ask Women on Yik Yak | Need advice from other girls!! So for the past 2 ish years my roomate and friend always asks to borrow my clothes. I’ve always said yes bc it’s awk to say no but she always gets stains on them, self tan on them, or straight up doesn’t return them,

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Need advice from other girls!! So for the past 2 ish years my roomate and friend always asks to borrow my clothes. I’ve always said yes bc it’s awk to say no but she always gets stains on them, self tan on them, or straight up doesn’t return them,

Anonymous 6w

Just tell her no. Don't become a doormat bc this could become a if you give a mouse a cookie situation

Anonymous 6w

At that point you can tell her that she ruins your clothes and that you don’t/didn’t appreciate it. So she lost those "privileges", if she gets defensive about it, you can always give her one more chance but if she ruins it, she pays for the clothing. Or completely tell her no and if she’s defensive about that honestly consider a new friend.

Anonymous 6w

(2) I’m a generous and kind friend and usually don’t have a problem with people borrowing stuff. But it’s getting to the point where I’m anxious for the school year to start because I won’t have a good excuse or reason to tell her no she can’t wear them. But I know I absolutely don’t want her wearing them. Also they are not cheap clothing they are expensive which is another reason I don’t want them ruined. How do I tell her no without being a bitch?

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#1 6w

I agree, and that’s why I tried to make up some random excuses of why she couldn’t wear them, but I do hangout with this girl often so I’m wondering how to say no without it being awkward or rude ??

Anonymous

#1 6w

If you want to give her explanations then tell her that you've let her borrow your clothes in the past and that she hasn't returned them in a good condition or hasn't returned them at all. Nothing wrong with setting a boundary if she gets upsetti spaghetti thats her fault