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Ask Women 16w
Why is it that being treated nice and respectfully by a guy can be such an ick for some of yall?
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Anonymous 16w

i’ve never experienced this 😭

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Anonymous 16w

because a lot of people have the intuition to know when a “kind” act is done with ulterior motives

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Anonymous 16w

huh? Can you elaborate?

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Anonymous 16w

I’ve never been icked out by that. You know you can do that and are simply not attracted to you still right? Either physically or mentally since it is bare minimum treatment

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Anonymous 16w

Not sure why a woman would get an ick from someone being kind and respectful but I understand that not all women or men are the same. Some women are praying and dreaming to find a kind gentleman while others might not even look for one.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

Like they’ll be turned off by guys who are nice to them but turned on by guys who comparatively treat them horribly

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

That has not been my experience at all, or what I’ve observed with my friends or generally

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

I understand that when it’s actually the case but why do yall sometimes still fall for a guy who treats you poorly?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

that’s a bit of a stereotype, and not indicative of the whole. individual women might have some attachment issues to men who treat them poorly and that’s something they should work out with a therapist. but on the whole i wouldn’t say women like being treated poorly, that’s a little outlandish.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

Yeah that’s why I was careful to say “sometimes”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

well in that case the answer would just be “some people just have issues they need to work out”. not just confined to women.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Probably just doesn’t know what they want- definitely a case by case type thing tho

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