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Told my bf I don’t like how he mainly touches my butt and my boobs everyday so he got all sad and silent and when I tried to cuddle he pushed me away and said “I don’t want to touch you cuz you said you didn’t like it”. Gave me the biggest ick.
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Anonymous 1w

Tbh as a guy I’d be kinda lost on what to do. Like I’d feel so bad for touching my girl if she said that. Maybe give like specific scenarios where he shouldn’t

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Anonymous 1w

It’s me again👋. It’s not that I don’t like him doing it at all, I just want him to tone it down. I don’t mind it but when he does it multiple times daily, it gets really annoying. Makes me feel like that’s all he sees in me. I lean in for a kiss then BOOM tit/ass grab

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Anonymous 1w

Great guy but I’m having trouble setting boundaries w him because everytime I tell him to stop, I feel obligated to apologies or else he’ll ignore me for the whole day. What should I do and how should I communicate it?

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Anonymous 1w

You’re so real for that ngl that is an ick

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Anonymous 1w

He sounds like a child dump him

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Anonymous 1w

Sounds like it’s a timing issue. May be try to bring it up again and explain that there’s certain cases and situations where it’s good. Or explain how it is a matter of frequency.

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Anonymous 1w

wow, what a bubble-blowing baby

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Anonymous 1w

Yeah I would’ve ended this immediately after this, would’ve just left with no reason never contacted you again

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Honestly. I get that he’s your boyfriend but you don’t owe him anything. You can still touch and love on someone without touching their butt or boobs all day. But if you’ve been having problems setting boundaries that’s a bigger issue. A real boyfriend would respect your boundaries and if they have a problem talk about it like adults. This sounds like childish and lowkey manipulative behavior. Not saying he’s bad or anything but really childish.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

such a typical guy response. try to make you feel guilty for setting a boundary

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

you are completely justified in being bothered by that. you're not a toy.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Did you tell him this specifically? Maybe tell him you feel objectified by how much he does it, a bf worth keeping will value your opinions and want you to not feel like an object

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Im ngl thats manipulation😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

As a guy, I think it’s hard to understand the balance. I’ve never personally dealt with this, and I’m not trying to invalidate your feelings, it’s maybe good to try to be more concise about what you feel. I’m thinking about it now, and if my girlfriend said this to me now I’d probably worry a lot about making her feel uncomfortable. Like it would throw me into a situation of worrying if I’m meeting the right balance

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Would you be okay with initiating things more?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

But I also don’t do it like you described. I don’t think I read into that enough lol, if anything makes you uncomfortable ofc you should speak up, but just make sure on top of that you are clear on what you expect down the line

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

#5 got it down

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

Being a girly these days is calling anything you don't like "manipulation" instead of using communication to resolve issues

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 1w

OP literally described trying to communicate and her BF responded by ignoring her all day unless she apologized for trying to set a boundary. that's as clear cut as manipulation gets

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

I'm not talking about OP, I'm talking about girlies. If you feel victimized then that's totally on you

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 1w

because she didn’t want to get groped 💀 you’re weird

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 1w

How’s that weird? Ngl I would do the same

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

i’m saying he and the bf are, not her, i feel bad for her

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

Absolutely. I can see how this guy would get confused bcs most men genuinely aren’t educated abt that and just assume it’s what they’re supposed to do.

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