Anonymous OP 13w

I think the most annoying part of it is that when I vent about my issues, I get my DM’s FLOODED with men pretending to care about my feelings just to get my snap, they’re literally SO nice to me, “If you need anything I’m here to talk.” “Oh I’m sorry about that, is there anything I can do to help?” And when they find out I’m a guy, BOOM! Instantly they turn into a completely different person, which basically tells me “You only cared because you wanted to ask me for my snap or a nude.”

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Anonymous OP 13w

I’m probably the most anti-man man out there rn. We suck ass and I wanted to vent lowkey.

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Anonymous OP 13w

The funny thing is nobody ever DMs me for any reason p much at alll so total opposite here

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Anonymous #1 13w

Duuuuude, I get DM’s ALL.THE.TIME! I’m a pretty feminine guy, so I post pictures of my hobbies, or I post about being bored at home, but because I text very 💅🏽, dudes kinda get the impression that I’m a woman, and I get really weird comments in my DM’s.

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Anonymous #1 13w

One time I made a post about how insecure I was about my big thighs… holy… fuck. My DM’s have never been so full. And they all immediately called me a 🚬 when I told them I was a dude 😭. I don’t know if it’s ALL men or just men in Yikyak. I know this app is full of gooners anyways.

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Anonymous OP 13w

If you walk past a bus stop every day and a crazy guy is yelling at the sky does that mean that everyone who rides the bus is crazy and yells at the sky?

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Anonymous #1 13w

No but if I walk past a bus stop every day and a crazy guy is yelling at the sky, I’ll think “Woah that guy is weird. Whatever.” And then I go on the bus and there’s 3 more crazy dudes yelling at the bus ceiling, so I’m like “Okaaaay? That’s… odd.” Then I move to the other side of the bus and there’s 4 more crazy dudes yelling at the ceiling, so then I just get off the bus because everyone else on the bus is acting like this shit is normal.

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Anonymous #1 13w

This whole thing isn’t a “one man ruined it for everyone” mentality. There’s not ONE crazy man rapidly harassing hundreds of thousands of women every day. It’s a VERY large majority of men doing this. Yes there are good men, but as “one of the good ones”, it’s our job to not only be a genuinely good person, but to also call out these other men for their shitty behaviors.

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Anonymous OP 13w

So “everyone else” is the majority of the people who aren’t the problem but you’ve glossed over them again

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Anonymous #1 13w

Random comment, I fucking hate when I’m waiting in line to order food and the person in front of me is taking forever deciding what they want, despite being in line already for like 10 minutes so they clearly had time to think about what they wanted WHILE they were in line.

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Anonymous OP 13w

Totally agreed

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Anonymous #1 13w

Another random comment. I can’t stand when people chew with their mouth open and they start smacking their lips.

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Anonymous OP 13w

Same lol

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Anonymous #1 13w

Okay great. Now notice how I said “the person” or “people”. But you didn’t get offended because despite being a person, or despite being “people”, you knew that you didn’t do any of that, so you’re not included as part of the group, despite me saying “People” instead of “some people”? That’s what I mean when I say “men”.

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Anonymous #2 13w

Oh absolutely. That’s kinda what got me thinking, like… imagine irl scenarios. It would be super uncomfortable if I was a woman and knew a man irl was being nice to me because he had ulterior motives.

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Anonymous OP 13w

Why don’t you just say people instead of men? If you aren’t specifically having beef with men (as opposed to women) then why would you specifically say men and not people? Also, I have been known to not know what I want during the line and I have been known to chew with my mouth open sometimes. I fully admit that. And I tolerate it when other people do it. I don’t complain about it online. I just accept it. Plus; when they take forever it gives me more time to think and relax

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Anonymous OP 13w

Goes both ways

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Anonymous OP 13w

even just like getting dms on instagram rather than here. like it's a whole other level of uncomfy when they know my name, what i look like, etc. much easier to brush off on here.

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Anonymous #2 13w

Naw man I getcha. That would be so scary. Especially with technology or how someone can find out what school you go to or where you live just based on the background of ur photos. It makes me 100x more cautious of what I post online.

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Anonymous #1 13w

nobody said it didn't. if you want to rant about women talking to you with ulterior motives, by all means, make your own post. but you're just taking away from the specific scenario we are trying to discuss by saying "well it happens to other people too." it's like if someone was trying to rant about their day and you commented "well i ALSO had a bad day." like if you want to talk about your own problems, by all means, but i made this post specifically to talk about mine yk

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Anonymous #2 13w

There’s a reason I don’t have public social media. No name. No face. Nobody bothers me in DMs

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Anonymous #1 13w

I mean i’ve gotten hit on on linkedin of all places, which is sort of necessary for me to have as someone looking for jobs.

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