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Anonymous 5w

Imma get downvotes for this but I’m a guy just looking around for his girlfriend’s comments lol. If a guy approaches u he has accepted that you could say no. From the sounds of it he asked nicely and would probably feel really bad if he startled u or made u nervous. No need to go into any details that u don’t want to, but dming him back saying you actually aren’t interested but appreciated the compliment is completely fine. He shouldn’t take it personally or hard and appreciate the honesty.

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Anonymous 5w

you can just send a text saying “hey i was really flattered by your approach, but im actually not in a great spot to be starting anything new” much better to be honest than just ghosting

Anonymous 5w

just ignore it or reply "sorry I'm not interested." you have absolutely no obligation to a guy who ran up to you on the street

Anonymous 5w

Yeah, as a guy, I learned the hard way that women will often say yes to a random guy who approaches them because they’re scared to say no. As a guy, it’s not something we are really aware of before it’s brought to our attention, as we aren’t scared by random women approaching the same way women often are by random men.

Anonymous 5w

Just tell him you aren’t interested. Politely, of course. You aren’t obligated to appease him.

Anonymous

#5 5w

If it’s something you’d feel comfortable and safe sharing, if I was in his situation, I’d like to be explained that you were a bit startled and scared by him approaching, and so said yes to giving out your Instagram and meeting him at a cafe sometime because you were afraid to say no in the moment. That you realize that it probably wasn’t his intention to startle or scare you, and you didn’t intend to mislead him either, but that you actually aren’t interested. And that you wish him well.

Anonymous

#5 5w

I’d feel bad for learning that I made you uncomfortable when approaching, but I’d really appreciate your honesty in being told. Furthermore, this feedback could help him become more aware and mindful of how he can come across to women he’s approaching that he doesn’t know, and to avoid inadvertently startling or scaring women when approaching, or else recognize it when it happens and respond accordingly.

Anonymous

#5 5w

And I’m sure he would appreciate learning about this from you directly, rather than from a third party that some woman will eventually inevitably complain to after he inadvertently makes her uncomfortable in how he approaches her.