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seeing this guy but im noticing that he has trouble breaking bad news and saying no a little bit. any advice on how to help him out?
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Anonymous 5w

Maybe he just needs more reassurance that he won’t be judged or something, therapy might be a good option for him

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Anonymous 5w

Give him open and explicit space to say no. My gf struggles with this and when it seems like shes relenting i go "hey, are you sure? It seems like you arent thrilled about your choice, you know its okay to say no" and that will at least help them reflect about how they feel knowing that you support them.

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Anonymous 5w

It sounds like he has trauma or cptsd of some kind, u should talk to him about that

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Anonymous 5w

Dm me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

yea im wondering if it’s from a past relationship. he’s been in relationships since high school and only really was single junior year of college (this past school year). but his friend told me he had a situationship during that time and his friends told him to break it off since she was really insecure (would get super angry if he would even talk to another girl)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

good point! definitely will do this, he has hinted that our relationship has felt like a safe space. I might talk to him about therapy the deeper our relationship gets. I’m also studying to be a therapist lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

you sound like an awesome bf! I’ll try using this, thanks so much :)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Im a lesbian but thank you! I also kind of struggle with it so i came up with the idea by being like what would i need to not knee-jerk agree to things i dont want to?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

omg so sorry for the confusion! I forgot this was “ask women” 🙂‍↕️ also that’s so nice and empathetic :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

okay let’s not jump straight into ptsd here that is a very very serious diagnosis. He probably just grew up as a pushover and doesn’t have the skills to feel comfortable saying no or expressing negativity. That is extremely common and somewhat normal despite being not a good trait. Not everything is ptsd or trauma and y’all pmo with jumping straight to that every time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Imo therapy would be great for EVERYONE

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