Anonymous #1 15w

4 hours, she’s a cook and a student, the message was “hi wassup”

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Anonymous OP 15w

Give it another 2-4 hours but depending on what kind of relationship you guys currently have, she’s probably not interested

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Anonymous #1 15w

During the talking stage how much am I supposed to be flirting? I attempted to flirt when we matched and she seemed to like it but I haven’t really been flirting at all, I don’t want to feel creepy, plus idk how to do that if I don’t feel anything coming from the other person which she’s been busy but idk if that’s it lol I think she isn’t sure about me

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Anonymous OP 15w

But she said she’s down to meet up and stuff and do other things together

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Anonymous OP 15w

Best thing to do is be honest and try to take a step forward (meeting up, defining the relationship, etc) if she is down, great, if not at least you tried and you know where you stand and are free to move on. Personally, I really hate flirting bc it’s so vague and doesn’t tell me much about if there’s a chance to move forward or if the guy is just bored and want to text a girl

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Anonymous OP 15w

It sounds hopeful if she is legitimately busy with work and school and may have just missed the message, especially if she said she’s down to meet. I’d be as honest as possible with her about the next steps you want to take. So long as you include her in the decision to move forward and don’t make it a long love confession

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Anonymous #1 15w

I’ve been super modest and not been very forward, just saying hey lemme know whenever u want to schedule our walk around downtown when ur able to, letting her know I’m off for a day and if she wants to play games together im down etc and she’s said she wants to at some point i just haven’t felt ANY reciprocation of any kind

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Anonymous OP 15w

Like I want to fall in love WITH someone, not have someone fall in love at me and leave me out of it. Rom coms do us no favors in portraying this lol. You got this!

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Anonymous #1 15w

Thanks for the advice. I sent her a message asking if I should be flirting more? Then I said I wouldn’t know how to do that since I barely know her and that I would feel very creepy doing that

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Anonymous OP 15w

Tbh it’s feeling like we’re just gonna end of friends if I don’t see any reciprocation

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Anonymous OP 15w

Ah gotcha. I might wait a day or so and then give her an option for an exit if she wants it. Saying something like “hey I haven’t heard from you and I wanted to check in and see if everything is okay. If you’re not interested, I completely understand, but if you are I’d still like to hang out. Let me know where you’re at” Then at least you’ll know either way and she can express where she’s at. This is my trick to not get ghosted

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Anonymous #1 15w

I kinda already sent her something like that several days ago and she never responded lol, she did say she had been staying up until 6am to work on her final

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