
I remember being in middle and high school and whenever I got assigned to a group with the more conventionally attractive guys they’d just ignore my presence or talk to me as little as possible. Obviously this was a while ago and we were all more immature then, but I think a similar theme as held, just less blatant. I don’t take it personally but it does (to me) indicate a certain pattern
(1) walking around, getting catcalled (disrespect toward those they find attractive) (2) listening to men in my life disrespect women they find unattractive (3) the internet (4) listening to men in my life judge random women for their clothing, even stuff like crop tops. (5) the scientifically tested effects of pretty privilege in the workplace
As a conventionally attractive guy, I try to talk less to women I don’t find attractive to not give them the wrong idea that I may be in to them. I try to be polite but very limited/professional basically. Maybe I’m being a bit presumptuous but whenever I do try just being more normally open, ppl end up taking it as a sign of interest and it becomes a whole thing I’d rather just avoid. I don’t think I’m being mean, just more closed off ig, idk what else to do
They don’t respect us. And my guess is, if you’re a guy, you’ve witnessed the disrespect but never realized it. It helps to flip the script in your imagination. When your bros are talking about a woman, imagine she’s you and your bros are women. Is that scenario realistic? How do you feel about it?