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Idk if anyone here can help, but I’m a guy who’s too afraid to even look a pretty girl in the eyes. I don’t know how to change this
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Anonymous 3w

Honestly, as a pretty girl, I will say that I don’t go for the guys that are “smooth.” When guys can easily talk to girls I interpret that as them being players. I think it’s so cute and endearing when guys get all bashful and stumble over their words.

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Anonymous 3w

practice

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Anonymous 3w

I now know this is why I struggle getting a gf

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Anonymous 3w

Get confidence and maybe therapy if you can’t talk to someone normally

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Anonymous 3w

This will take time and maybe some therapy on the side, but it may help to build up experience in conversing with people in general - and then women - with no goal of finding a date. Where the only goal you have at that time is having a pleasant interaction. Or making a friend, if that’s not too intimidating of a goal. You want to build the basic skill set before you go for the harder skill of talking to someone you’re interested in

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I’m too scared to do it in the first place

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

start with ppl ur not attracted to

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

How do I do it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Ok. That‘s how I‘d be 100% 💀.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

I just worry that if I talk to a girl like a friend, she won’t think of me as anything more (happened before)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

That’s the advice, first learn to talk to girls who you’d just see as friends because that is less intimidating and that will help you build the confidence to later approach the “pretty girl”

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Do I talk to them the same way tho? That’s what I’m not clear on

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Haha me too. My bf got so adorably nervous around me at first.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Try to start a meaningful conversation. Ask some interesting questions that encourage thinking and imagination. What would you do if you could fly? What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had? If you could turn into an animal, which one would you be? Or you can do what I do, and show random people your handful of caterpillars.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I think if you’re trying to show someone you’re interested, you might have a slightly different approach to the conversation, but the foundation of the conversational skills are the same across most kinds of people you would talk to. Being able to set someone at ease, being genuinely interested (even just for a brief connection), learning how small talk leads into bigger talk, etc, you want to learn to walk before you run.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

How is it different exactly?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Opinions may vary, but if I’m flirting, I’m going to be a bit wittier/funnier, ask questions that help me guess whether we’d be compatible (without them feeling like they’re being interviewed), and be honest with myself about whether they look like they want to keep engaging.

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