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Need a female perspective: In college, a girl I liked seemed to be trying to set me up with her roommate, but I only wanted her. 5 years later she agreed to a date. If her friend used to like me, could “girl code” still carry weight this long after?
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Anonymous 7h

Idek why this girl code exists. If my friend is happy with a guy I like, I’m going to support her. Plus, this way, one of us does get to be with him. Seems like a net positive. There’s a limited amount of good men to date and lots of creeps. I’ll never be the one to interfere when my friend finds a good one.

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Anonymous 1d

It sounds like to me that she liked you, however, she was not necessarily interested in a relationship. Therefore, she thought you should date her roommate instead. I do want to apologize, because you deserve a direct answer instead of being teased.

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Anonymous 1d

For a little bit of context her roommate lives 3 hours away from us and the girl I like is significantly closer.

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Anonymous 1d

five years no fucking chance

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Care to elaborate?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

it's just way too long

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Thank you, I appreciate that. Five words per comment is not my idea of an “answer” or any helpful advice for that matter. I did forget to mention that when she agreed to my proposal for a date, she seemed hesitant. So the hesitancy is why I’m wondering if she might be consulting her friend to see if I am now fair game? (that was actually kind of the whole point for me wanting a different perspective)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

5 words per comment is not helpful.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

you asked a yes or no question and the answer is no, idk what you want here

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22h

OK so you’re saying that the “girl code” of “you can’t date them because I like them” does not carry weight anymore because how much time has passed?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22h

Both of your comments just had so little to offer and seemed pretty ambiguous

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7h

You’re a good friend

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