Ask Women on Yik Yak | My gf told me that months ago while we were dating she kissed this girl (they were drunk) that she’s hung out with a few times they go to school together and aren’t very close at all is this cheating and is it something I should end the relationship over?

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Ask Women 9w

My gf told me that months ago while we were dating she kissed this girl (they were drunk) that she’s hung out with a few times they go to school together and aren’t very close at all is this cheating and is it something I should end the relationship over?

Anonymous 9w

I definitely think it’s cheating. And I wouldn’t end the relationship for it but you have a right to be mad, hurt, and upset about it.

Anonymous 9w

I’d consider it cheating but idk if I’d end the whole relationship (depends on long we’ve been together and if I can trust her again) maybe couples counseling can help?

Anonymous 9w

Is your girlfriend bi? It’s kind of more normal than you would expect for girls to kiss their friends platonically while drunk, especially if they’re affectionate drunks. Obviously what matters is whether you consider it cheating but if her motivation in kissing the girl is a factor, consider the possibility that she was basically thinking of it the same way she would a hug or platonic cuddling w girl friends

Anonymous 9w

So what’s the consensus should I break up with her?

Anonymous 9w

Let’s stop for a minute here - do you find it hot your gf kissed another girl? Would you wanna see it in person? Have you ever thought to see if she’d be willing to do more with a girl with you being there as well? If no to all these, maybe consider asking her not to do it anymore and go from there. If yes to those, explore that side and go crazy with it

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Anonymous

#1 9w

No im into monogamy only. Is it not cheating? Feels like it

Anonymous

OP 9w

It very would could be. I don’t know the exact situation it happened under. You mentioned they were drunk, maybe it was a bet or a dare, or maybe they did it one time and she decided she didn’t like kissing girls anymore. If you don’t know it, I’d get the full story behind what happened. If you do know it and just didn’t put it on here, then it’s hard for me to give accurate advice. But if it happened months ago and it was just a one-off thing, it’s up to you to decide how you want to deal

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Anonymous

#1 9w

with it

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Anonymous

#2 9w

1 year now

Anonymous

#4 9w

As a straight girl in a relationship, my rule generally is that if I wouldn’t do it with a guy I wouldn’t do it with a girl because it’s still weird. I’ve never kissed or cuddled any friend “platonically.” I don’t think that should change just because someone happens to be bi—shit that probably just makes it worse lmao

Anonymous

OP 9w

Ask yourself, do you still see a future with you? Do you see this as an obstacle y’all can overcome? And to you is it worth the battle of overcoming? 1 year means she should def know better and I know personally i wouldn’t continue the relationship bc the trust has been lost BUT that not be your choice and that’s okay! I def highly suggest couples counseling if you choose to stay, she needs to know what she did is wrong and not acceptable. I hope you figure it out bro

Anonymous

#2 9w

With her* not with you lol

Anonymous

#4 9w

I mean I’ve cuddled friends platonically and given/received forehead/cheek kisses but never on the lips that’s wayyyyy out of bounds no matter what gender/sexuality. And the type of cuddling is diff for friends than a partner AND I wouldn’t ever do something my partner doesn’t like.

Anonymous

#5 9w

Right, I was more so asking because if she isn’t bi or attracted to women in any form I would be less inclined to assume the kiss was romantic or sexual.

Anonymous

#4 9w

Ah I see, that makes more sense; however that doesn’t change that it’s still a kiss on the lips and still considered cheating by monogamy standards.

Anonymous

OP 9w

Nah

Anonymous

OP 9w

If I were you I probably would but ik other people might disagree with that

Anonymous

OP 9w

I would honestly

Anonymous

#2 9w

We must have completely different boundaries because the most physical stuff I do with my friends is hugs, I could never imagine kissing them anywhere or cuddling lol

Anonymous

#5 9w

And that’s okay to have differences! I’m just a very affectionate person overall. I do all the girly things with my girl friends and all the guy stuff with my guy friends, but I also ask my person what they are comfy with. I also come from the Deep South lol