Anonymous OP 8w

“One second sorry” ~15 minutes ago😭 commenting so that I can come back later!

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Anonymous #2 8w

lmaooo I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to disappear, lemme get to typing

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Anonymous #2 8w

I(19) and my gf(19) have been together for nearly 7 months. I get we’re young. That’s fine. I get stuff’s uncertain. But I made it clear that I date to marry from the start, and it seems that it was an issue that she didn’t feel like mentioning for her. I’m not saying “oh I wanna get married RN-“, I’m saying in like 5-7 years. Stability would be nice. (Continued below)

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Anonymous OP 8w

Aaaaaaand she said this.

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Anonymous OP 8w

We’ve talked since this and we’ve reached a mild consensus; there was extreme miscommunication and misinterpretation on both of our ends, but I still need a second opinion. What my understanding was, is that she was saying it would never happen.

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Anonymous OP 8w

And this made no sense to me. Like I’m fine if it’s a possibility, and it’s not guaranteed, but what I was getting was that it would NEVER happen and idk if I’m crazy for thinking it seemed like that.

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Anonymous OP 8w

And I know and AGREE that 6-7 months is WAY too soon to know!!! But I just really didn’t like that it seemed like she was writing off the idea this early.

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yeah I really was afraid of that.

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Anonymous OP 8w

Well this sucks. If that’s the case I guess I’m absolutely screwed.

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fuuuuuucking knew it.

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I tried man.

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You def called it, thanks for helping.

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Anonymous hellraiser 8w

alright, I appreciate it. TY for your perspective.

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Anonymous OP 8w

We’re currently taking a 3 day span of not talking and thinking, remaining in our exclusive relationship still.

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Anonymous hellraiser 8w

being in a serious relationship/ marriage often means making sacrifices and compromises that could alter the trajectory of your own life. it’s not crazy or uncommon for someone to be hesitant about making such a huge commitment like that. it’s often more comfortable to just prioritize your own life and goals.

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Anonymous OP 8w

that’s probably a good idea! i hope everything works out and yall get the clarity you need

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Anonymous hellraiser 8w

thank you, I truly appreciate it. I just can’t really shake the vibe that no matter how much I want to make things work and meet in the middle and compromise or change to a reasonable degree for someone, it never works.

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Anonymous OP 8w

yeah it seems like the best case scenario in her mind is yall not getting married, yall might just be at two different points in life that are too different

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Anonymous hellraiser 8w

yeah it seems like it.

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I see. Honestly this is pretty fair.

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Anonymous #6 8w

I don’t want to get married until I’m like 35, of course the right girl would make me reconsider, but that’s the plan, and so many girls I’ve dated have not been happy when finding that out, but 🤷‍♂️

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Well yeah but that right girl probably doesn’t exist so I don’t say that part out loud, like I’ve been in in several relationships but only really truly loved like 2-3 girls in my life and even those I knew weren’t right for me

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But what I don’t understand is why do these girls want to be with me long-term like for marriage even though they know I don’t want them fully

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Like why can’t u just enjoy where ur at

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Yeah I agree ur doing it right, I just can’t imagine wanting to be with someone knowing ur not their first option

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Anonymous #8 8w

appreciate your perspective

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