Anonymous #1 19h

I like sex and intimacy, but penetration hurts. It feels like a waste of time to go out of my way to start something that I can’t actually fulfill right now.

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Anonymous OP 19h

I’m not saying everyone should feel like this and I guess I wouldn’t if I was lesbian or ace, or actually wanted to wait for marriage,but it feels like I’m too old to have a penetration limit on intimacy in a relationship.

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Anonymous OP 19h

I would think that any partner worth having would be willing to respect limits you're putting up for your own comfort and safety.

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Anonymous OP 19h

Ok you never have ti do penetration and theres nothing childish about not wanting to

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Anonymous #2 19h

It’s not “have to” as in feel pressured by another person but my parents have the sexless frenemy marriage with separate bedrooms and I never want that I like sex and I’m just upset with my stupid body that’s supposed to be able to push out a giant baby head but for me it’s an accomplishment that I can now accommodate something the circumference of a quarter. Not being able to have sex was one of the stressors that ended my last real relationship & I just don’t want to go through that again.

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Anonymous OP 17h

That sounds like a great reason to pause on looking for relationships to me. Like obv you dont owe your partner sex and sex doesnt have to have penetration but if thats a stressor you want to avoid then by all means give it some time

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Anonymous #2 11h

Ok because that’s what I thought but being called cheap and sleezy and apparently “only caring about sex” through me for a loop. Like yes I enjoy sex, penetration hurts but I want to be able to enjoy a relationship without having a huge blocker on a big part of intimacy & I’m confused about why anyone would think that was wrong but I guess everyone’s just dealing with their own shit.

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