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How do I talk to women better? I feel like my brain just stops working when talking with a girl because when I talk to a guy I’m fine and can talk for hours but the second I try to talk with a girl it’s like I have nothing to say. Any fixes?
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Anonymous 1d

If you’re just talking to them as friends, just talk to them like you would anyone else

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Anonymous 1d

If it’s for women you are attracted to, just try to treat her like you would a guy friend(without any weird jokes ofc).

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Anonymous 1d

I think you should probably work on seeing us as people first and foremost. It can be hard to talk to someone but remembering that in the end we are all human really helps

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Women are people too with hobbies and humor etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Okay thank you for the advice. I don’t know why I like freeze almost when talking to women. It may be a social anxiety thing but why only for women I want to talk to?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Focus on getting to know her, rather than trying to show off. She should ask questions back if the vibes are right :)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Are you in any way hoping to date them? That could cause nerves. Could also be afraid you’ll get in trouble or get made fun of for how you behave around them, or that you’ve been taught to put men and women in separate categories in your mind and therefore automatically assume interactions will be different/new/scary.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Maybe try journaling. That helps me understand why I behave weirdly in some situations. I have the thing where my brain doesn’t compare men to women, and I’m trying to work on that. I think it’s going well because I can actually get attracted to women again.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

And for the inability to say something, you can pick something you know you can talk about and then plan what you’ll say ahead of time. Maybe rehearse in the mirror. Then go say it. Once you start talking, that might override your brain’s freeze mode. It might not, but that’s an idea.

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