Ask Women on Yik Yak | I’ve been with my bf for 1.5 years & I know I don’t want to marry him. he essentially told me he our marriage will be 60/40 with me putting in most of the effort. he wants to split bills but also expects me to do the cooking & cleaning. I told him 1/2

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I’ve been with my bf for 1.5 years & I know I don’t want to marry him. he essentially told me he our marriage will be 60/40 with me putting in most of the effort. he wants to split bills but also expects me to do the cooking & cleaning. I told him 1/2

Anonymous 14w

girl what😭 i would leave him 100%, that’s a really huge red flag imo 🚩 the 50/50 bills i get but then it sounds like misogyny that he all of a sudden wants to assign the domestic labor role solely onto you once you get married without offering to help out what…. no offense, it sounds like he doesn’t want a life partner but a parent who can help him out financially while taking care of things he should know how to do as an adult 😃

Anonymous 14w

I’d divorce him if that was the case & he was really shocked then started back peddling but I know he’s not joking bc I’ve made that conclusion myself before he even stated it based on how he acts. would yall leave in this situation or how would you handle it?

Anonymous 14w

i think he just told you everything he expects out of you and what hes going to dump on you regardless of a conversation, dump him

Anonymous 14w

60/40??? not even 50/50 is crazy. a lot of women end up having horrible lives bc their husband screwed them over. you still have time leave and meet somebody new who can meet all your needs and atleast do 50/50. DO NOT SETTLE!!

Anonymous

OP 14w

I would sit down a have a conversation with him about your expectations and what you think a marriage should look like. Obviously things can’t always be 50/50 but that should be the goal unless otherwise specified. If he doesn’t agree you should leave and quite frankly I’d leave regardless of the outcome of the conversation because he basically told you he doesn’t respect you

Anonymous

#1 14w

not everyone wants to marry in a long-term relationship, but ultimately the principle of what “marriage” is essentially a commitment as a lifelong partner. so even if you choose not to marry — if you stay with him long enough and then later on live with him later down the line, i’m assuming would happen still

Anonymous

#1 14w

i think that essentially what you could be struggling to comprehend is if you can see yourself staying w ur bf several years down the line rather than just “marrying him.” idk but i’m just highly concerned how you could be w him if he holds this idea of what an ideal relationship is like wym “based on how he acts”?!?! 😭 idk much but based on info u provided, yes leave 💯 trust ur gut

Anonymous

#2 14w

honestly i agree with #2! i’d def sit down and communicate before deciding to to leave. i don’t know much about your relationship, so my response came off harsh, but def think this is a great idea