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I just got a bf for the first time ever(I’ve never liked a guy before but this one is super sweet) and I wanna spend all my time with him but I feel like I’m losing who I was and idk if I’m growing or developing an unhealthy attachment to him…please help
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Anonymous 3w

I’ve been there. Try to keep a healthy distance like don’t be in call 24/7 with him. Have your hobbies when ur with ur friends don’t check ur phone with him. It’s ok to love but tread carefully at first bc it will break ur heart if he leaves and sometimes guys love bomb in beginning and once u get attached leave. There’s nothing wrong with loving him though and being attached I would just warn u to especially in the beginning have some separate time

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Anonymous 3w

I would say start setting time aside for yourself AND your friends! a girl i was close with did this and would bail on plans or say she was busy anytime he was around, and completely lost herself in him. The best way to combat that is to have good friends who will ask to hang out and call you out

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

So I might’ve already spent an insane amount of time with him and pushed away a lot of other stuff but do you think it’ll be fine if I just start creating some healthy distance?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Ya like I’m assuming a lot of the time u guys spend together is on text or on the phone so maybe I would start by when ur doing important tasks like studying or working to keep ur phone away and rlly focus or when ur with ur friends try to stay off ur phone

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Ok thank you so much! Tbh I’ve been quarreling with this for a bit

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