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Do you care if your bf likes photos of this girl he used to be obsessed with? He liked her for years and also wants to be with her for a long time?
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Anonymous 1w

yeah i wouldn’t like that. when we started dating my bf cut off every woman he’d ever been involved with, on his own.

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Anonymous 1w

It’s not a controlling thing babe, it’s a respect thing. If he can’t respect you then that’s a whole other ordeal.

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Anonymous 1w

Oh I definitely would, he’s got your photos to like now

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Anonymous 1w

Yes. That’s very wrong. 🚩🚩🚩

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Anonymous 1w

Red flag all the way. Let’s say down the line you two continue your relationship, he’ll potentially be thinking about or even talking to this girl behind your back. And this is only one girl you know about. He is a loser.

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Anonymous 1w

After reading your other comments, I think that your bf probably has lower than average empathy and higher than average feelings of entitlement. Lower empathy = he calls you controlling for having feelings, instead of telling you that your feelings are valid and trying to help. Higher entitlement = he thinks he’s entitled to do what he wants with zero consideration for his partner.

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 1w

I love that😭 my bf has no done that one bit.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

not*

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

it’s worth a conversation. tell him it makes you uncomfortable

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

he makes it seem like I’m “controlling him.” He flat out told me he waits to like photos so I won’t see it and get upset. so this girl he used to like, he waits a few days and then will like bc he said “I know you would get upset if you saw that I liked it”

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 1w

I’ve tried but he gets upset and thinks it’s immature and we’re too old to be talking about this bc it’s “just a photo”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

mm thats not a good sign that he’s being so dismissive of your feelings. you need to be able to bring up things that upset you and feel heard, even if he has a different perspective. maybe try to sit him down again and explain your side and how to you it’s more that a photo, it’s a representation that he’s still seeing and thinking about a woman he used to be into

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 1w

okay I will try that. thank you so much.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

you’re welcome and good luck!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

That sounds manipulative af

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

Here’s a good test to do: return his energy and see how he reacts. Pick something small— maybe try calling him “controlling” next time he asks you to stop doing something. See how he reacts. If he says “oh yeah, that was controlling of me”, then maybe his values are just a little off. If he gets mad or argues, he’s probably immature and selfish, and probably not worth your time.

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