I just think the arm candy woman honestly brings more to the table from my prospective, I don’t want to control someone, I want be like have you tried sculpture and be able to share my passions with someone who hasn’t had a space to develop passions. At the end of an independent educated woman you find that they just want their nails done so other women are jealous, it’s impossible to find someone with values that don’t give me the ick and the more independent the more dead set and stubborn.
I think it’s at independence, I see women less empowering each other as independent but attempting to build an independent collective independence. Which has lead to off putting conformity like the more “independent and educated” a woman is l, to me she just seems exactly like all the other women and loses uniqueness. I would rather marry someone who didn’t have to do it alone and give them a comfy fun life and create joy.
People cannot be trained and thinking implying so is dehumanizing, I am merely saying that I have seen all the experience independence brings and the baggage it makes you bring to the table all I am saying is sell me looking local, to value an independent educated woman. It’s only a red flag if you’re a shitty person, I just know I can give a girl an amazing life but every American woman I meet already feels entitled to it.
you said so many messed up things, i don’t know where to start. first of all saying you want an “independent educated American woman” but also saying “be able to share my passions with someone who hasn't had a space to develop passions” doesn’t make any sense. along with you trying to explain what you think an independent educated woman is. any independent educated woman would have their own passions and wouldn’t base their whole identity over what their partner likes.
Saying you want us to “sell” you the “independent educated American woman” is crazy and dehumanizing. No one is going to try and convince you to date these women, either find someone you love or don’t. And saying you want someone who isn’t stubborn and has no passions already just sounds like your searching for a child or someone child like to “save”. And from all the typos and grammar mistakes in this post, something tells me that the educated American woman wouldn’t want you anyways💀💀