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Ask Women 4w
Do you like just being told what to do and have things planned for you as opposed to a guy asking and working with you to set things up?
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Anonymous 4w

i think we should both put effort into planning dates, and whoever plans it will come up with an idea and ask the other if it works.

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Anonymous 4w

Overall I want a guy who takes charge however initially I want him to get to know me so I can trust him to make the decisions that will satisfy us both. For example, for a first date rather than asking “where do you want to go” just giving a few options like bowling, picnic, Mexican, and Italian takes the stress off of me to find a place and I just have to decide on my preference.

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Anonymous 4w

No I want us to plan it together

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Do you prefer a couple options or just to give one like: bowling at 6 pm?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

If it’s something generic like bowling I feel like other options aren’t necessary but if would say having options is nice for many girls bc you never know if they are limited by their period or something else (like I wouldn’t want to go to the beach if I was on my period but that would be a fun date at other times)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Ok noted I’ll do this next time

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

Although I will say that I specifically like men who take charge and not all women like this

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

What if he asks you what you're comfortable with/prefer bc he's okay with both taking charge and deciding with you? I kinda just adjust accordingly to whatever works since I don't have too much of a preference, but I feel like some women haven't wanted to even be asked in the first place in my experience

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I think it’s attractive for a man to plan things out however I also want him to know me before making decisions for me so in the beginning I would appreciate him asking if I’m comfortable with him taking charge but also asking for my input or like I said earlier giving me a few options orrr maybe just proposing something and asking if that works and making it clear that they wouldn’t mind changing the plans

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