Ask Women on Yik Yak | What could a dream it mean if a woman you’ve known 10 years but aint meet irl yet tells you they had a dream that you SA’d her? (I would absolutely never) also how would you want to be comforted? Should I keep my distance for a couple days? I feel sick 🤕

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What could a dream it mean if a woman you’ve known 10 years but aint meet irl yet tells you they had a dream that you SA’d her? (I would absolutely never) also how would you want to be comforted? Should I keep my distance for a couple days? I feel sick 🤕

Anonymous 2w

I feel like if I dreamt about that I would go to therapy

Anonymous 2w

I would never tell someone i had a dream abt them like that, thats a personal issue to resolve via reflection or therapy or whatever other methods, it is not your responsibility to indulge/deflect her traumas or responses and Im sorry it was shared/upset you

Anonymous 2w

She shouldn’t have told you bc dreams don’t mean anything. You can’t control them and she put you in an awkward position by bringing it up. Keep your distance if that helps

Anonymous 2w

Nothing to be done she’s mentally I’ll

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Anonymous

#3 2w

And this is a great example of the improper way to respond... you can be kind and empathetic while still acknowledging she was in the wrong

Anonymous

#2 2w

Wym improper my suggestion is to do nothing

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Its the tone thats just rude and unnecessary phrasing 💀 she was wrong but shes still a human who evidently is experiencing something have some compassion

Anonymous

#2 1w

Yeah it really messed me up. I was very sick n depressed that whole weekend. It felt like I did somethin even tho I didn’t. Then my mind started thinking about what she thinks of me or how she sees me or if I’ve ever done something to make her feel unsafe or if she’d ever feel safe with me again. Because while it was a dream and she said she’d get over it, the body doesn’t easily forget something like that real or not. I told her if she doesn’t want to hear from me fur a while I’ll shut up and

Anonymous

OP 1w

And completely understand. But she said no it’s okay and that she’d get over it

Anonymous

#1 1w

I wish she would but she refuses to 😔

Anonymous

#4 1w

Thanks yeah my mind was pretty broken and over thinking a lot. While I do think dreams mean something at times cuz I’ve had some pretty important dreams myself I understand what you mean. I offered to keep my distance but she said not to so wanted to ask what else I could do

Anonymous

OP 1w

I mean id definitely say its worthwhile to make sure she understands her sharing that had had an effect on you and what that effect is, be mindful that shes clearly going through something and dont make it completely about yourself but she cant be ignorant to harming others bc shes struggling. Personally i would cut contact myself but i understand if you dont want to as I dont know the depth of the relationship there (obvi youve known her 10 yrs so i imagine youre close) just food for thought

Anonymous

#2 1w

Tldr; You shouldnt have to bear any residual mental/emotional load to maintain a relationship bc she shared smthin personal and inappropriate that is harming you, wishing you both the best tho