Ask Women on Yik Yak | my girlfriend is getting an abortion and I want to help as much as possible. I feel so guilty that I can’t bear any of the pain with her is there anything I can do to help? I got her ginger teas and heating pads but its eating at me that I can’t do more

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Ask Women 1d

my girlfriend is getting an abortion and I want to help as much as possible. I feel so guilty that I can’t bear any of the pain with her is there anything I can do to help? I got her ginger teas and heating pads but its eating at me that I can’t do more

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Anonymous 1d

Honestly? Talk to her about it. And you are also allowed to feel a certain way about it too. Just be there to support her and understand if she’s a bit- off. The hormones can be wild.

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Anonymous 1d

im paying for the abortion too but idk is there more i should do to help her through the process? I hate that i really can’t bear the physical and emotional pain for her

Anonymous 1d

just letting her know you’re there to emotionally support her means a lot. going to dollar tree and making her a little basket with her favorite snacks would be really cute and a journal with some nice pens could also be helpful. i’m part of a post abortion support group and a lot of the girls and i agree that an abortion can either make a relationship stronger or damage it to the point where you have to break up. please don’t hesitate to try couples therapy if things start not going well

Anonymous 1d

just be there for her fr! you’re already doing better than most guys would

Anonymous 1d

definitely keep communicating with her. hormones and emotions are running high and she might "flip flop"

Anonymous 1d

Just be prepared to support her through the emotions and listen to her. Idk what your specific circumstances are but even people who know abortion is the right choice for them can go through a wide range of emotions about it

Anonymous 15h

Show up and let her know that you are there for her! Her hormones and emotions are going to be a bit wild, but it’s natural for it to happen. Just by showing up, it helps her know that you’ll be there for future events as well

Anonymous 15h

That’s disgusting. Let her hurt.

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#2 1d

i think you are doing the right thing & you seem to really care which is great

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strawberry_hair 1d

shes so sweet and shes been so strong so she doesn’t want me to worry but I can’t help it… Im gonna try to do as much as I can for her but i just feel so guilty and wish she would try and lean on me a little more

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#2 1d

thanks she has been flip flopping a lot but i know its the hormones… i just wish that i could do more than just buy things and reassure her i feel useless

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OP 1d

You don’t need to feel guilty. You didn’t choose for this to be the situation. You sound like a really great partner so just keep on supporting her.

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strawberry_hair 1d

thank you i’ll try not to. I know we didn’t choose this but i can’t help but think i should’ve been more careful and more aware but i guess its a lesson to be learned. I really appreciate the reassurance its hard keeping a smile on my face for her when the guilt really eats at me

Anonymous

#7 15h

Absolutely not. It’s his girlfriend, you don’t get to decide if he lets her hurt or not. As someone who’s been through that kind of pain, I desperately wanted someone to be there for me.

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#7 14h

You’re disgusting. Fuck off. 🥰🖕

Anonymous

#7 9h

This right here is why you’ll probably never have a girlfriend😭I really hope you’re not Christian because I’m pretty positive god wouldn’t want an innocent person to hurt

Anonymous

#7 3h

Hope you wrap yourself around a telephone pole