Anonymous #1 4w

My dad doesn’t own me. Why is asking the father for his blessing still a thing in 2025. What if my dad says no? Is he supposed to never marry me?

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Anonymous OP 4w

It’s not about him owning you. Your dad up until you are married is responsible for you. To protect you, to provide for you. It is about him asking your dad to take that responsibility upon him self. And ultimately it’s a respect thing.

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Anonymous #1 4w

I understand that. But for me I feel like that’s not totally applicable. My fiancé is not replacing my dad. And now things are tense. My dad is even pushing me to break things off.

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Anonymous #1 4w

My fiancé apologized to my dad to try and put this behind us. But my dad is still not happy.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Um, the whole point is that your fiancé takes what were once your dad’s responsibilities.

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Anonymous #1 4w

Does that mean my fiancé when we get married will tell men when to come out at night? What clothes I can wear? Maybe if you wanna be traditional makes sense. But I’ve concluded that being traditional is not for me.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Then you’ll just have to deal with your dad being mad. Idk what to tell you but he has a right to be mad. Just as much as you have a right to think it’s dumb.

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Anonymous #1 4w

It’s been three months. My dad is still being cold and passive aggressive to my fiancé despite my fiancés attempts to make things right. He apologized and asked for his blessing. My dad said no. I’m scared for the future.

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Anonymous #1 4w

She’s not a kid. She’s probably been supporting herself and out on her own for a while.

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Anonymous #2 4w

How would you explain it people who don’t understand where I’m coming from.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Like I can almost guarantee she’s not some 18 year old moving out of her parents house who’s daddy buys everything and provides for her so this logic makes no sense in the modern age to me.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Your dad will get over himself. He can’t stop you from doing what you want to do. What your fiance needs to do is show by his actions that your dad can be accepting

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Anonymous #2 4w

And if you were to get in a car wreck or a pipe in your apartment Bursts, who is the first call in most normal circumstances? The dad

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Anonymous OP 4w

Personally I don’t think you should even have to. Your dad doesn’t own you and your decisions, you’re your own person.

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Anonymous #1 4w

My dad would tell me to call the auto shop or a maintenance man

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Anonymous #2 4w

Also my dad is very traditional and I don’t think he’d care. He’d be too busy congratulating me on my engagement and being happy for me

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Anonymous #1 4w

The idea that your partner in life replaces your parent, either of them, is so weird. Women are adults capable of taking care of ourselves, even though our parents took care of us as children. She is no longer a child and this weird vibe coming from the dad is concerning and reads, at least to me as creepy. He needs to get over himself and move on because she’s not “his” to “give” to the fiancé. She is an adult who can make her own choices.

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